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It amazes me the number of people I meet who act like they were brought up by a family of mice. No please or thank you, no let\u2019s take turns, no ability to argue a point without anger \u2014 in other words a complete dork. On top of that, people with no social skills want us to love and nurture them when we grow up. This isn\u2019t a man bashing exercise, there are plenty of women who are dorks too. Some people call them money grubbing bitches, but I won\u2019t go there today.<\/p>\n
Proper social skills allow you to progress through life and achieve your goals in a manner that\u2019s harmonious with and pleasant to other people you meet. It\u2019s simple, so why is it so difficult for some people? People are influenced by your behavior and attitude, there\u2019s no getting away from it. If you\u2019re a shit and you act like a shit, people won\u2019t stick around for very long. Not unless you bully them to the point where they are afraid of you but that\u2019s something even a flirty old woman won\u2019t get into.<\/p>\n
You don\u2019t have to be a smarmy used car salesman to be considered to have good social skills. You need to be seen as a nice person – genuinely friendly, outgoing, interesting and likeable. It\u2019s really easy to be nice. There is always something nice you can think of to say in any situation. Sure we all get wound up and spout off at inappropriate times and that\u2019s okay. The goal isn\u2019t to be perfect, just likeable.<\/p>\n
If someone had bad role models growing up, that could cause a problem for them in social situations. When they\u2019re uncomfortable and insecure they won\u2019t act in a likeable way. That\u2019s where they might be right now, but it is possible to change. All they need is the \u201cwant to\u201d to make it happen.<\/p>\n
Start by hanging around with someone they think is friendly and likeable.<\/strong>\u00a0Watch what they do and how they interact with other people. They\u2019ll look for nice things to say to people. They\u2019ll be genuinely interested in what others say and about what goes on in other peoples\u2019 lives.<\/p>\n Try to see themselves as others do.<\/strong>\u00a0This can be tricky but they should be aware of what they\u2019re saying and how they\u2019re saying it and listen for feedback. Having someone shake their head at you and say, \u201cman, you\u2019re weird,\u201d is feedback they should listen to. Someone who is not aware of how they come across to other people often think that they\u2019re a great catch and can\u2019t understand why they keep getting rejected.<\/p>\n If they make a mistake, don\u2019t beat themselves up.<\/strong>\u00a0We ALL make mistakes we wish we hadn\u2019t. Ask Mr. Obama how many states there are and see how he feels about mistakes! Simply do their best not to make the same mistake again and let the mishap go.<\/p>\n Ask advice from a friend.<\/strong>\u00a0If they think you can take any criticism (and some cannot) then they should ask someone they respect to give them some pointers on what they could do to improve their social skills. They might find that it\u2019s only a couple of things that are keeping them from their goal.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" It amazes me the number of people I meet who act like they were brought up by a family of mice. No please or thank you, no let\u2019s take turns, no ability to argue a point without anger \u2014 in other words a complete dork. On top of that, people with no social skills want…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":620,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-591","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"\n