{"id":588,"date":"2019-08-29T10:11:12","date_gmt":"2019-08-29T10:11:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/?p=588"},"modified":"2019-08-29T10:11:12","modified_gmt":"2019-08-29T10:11:12","slug":"handle-friends-input-date","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2019\/08\/handle-friends-input-date.html","title":{"rendered":"How to Handle Your Friend\u2019s Input About Your Date"},"content":{"rendered":"

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One thing about dating, its typically not an isolating activity. Friends and family get involved, wait staff at local hangouts weigh in opinions, sometimes even strangers throw out a comment or three. We never really are completely alone with another person thanks to all these soundtracks, opinions and voices running in our minds even when were are one on one with the one we love.<\/p>\n

But lets narrow it down to your friends. The family that you choose. The people that you trust. What do you do when your estimation of your date\/mate significantly differs from what your friends think? Do you listen? Do you let it impact what you do or don\u2019t do with this new person in your life?<\/p>\n

Guys may think that this post really centers around the girls because guys don\u2019t even talk about the women in their life to each other, right? Nope. First, some guys do talk about it (even if not to your face) and second even if your friends don\u2019t talk about it, can\u2019t you tell what they think by the way they react to the woman in your life?<\/p>\n

I\u2019m going to make this one fairly simple. There are really only a few things you need to consider.<\/p>\n

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  1. Do you trust and admire your friends? Do you look at the decisions they make and think that you hope to be that wise\/balanced\/real\/adventurous\/spiritual\/whatever in your own life?<\/li>\n
  2. Do you trust and admire yourself and your own decisions? Can you take information, process it and make your OWN decision even with alternate opinions and input?<\/li>\n
  3. What are the comments about? The superficial like \u201cHe chews his food too loudly\u201d or \u201cHer fingernails don\u2019t match her toenails.\u201d Or character concerns like \u201cI don\u2019t like the way he treats you because he pokes fun at you in a mean way all the time\u201d or \u201cWhy is she flirting so much with Joe over there when she\u2019s your date?\u201d<\/li>\n
  4. Have you been honest enough with your friends to trust that they have the input needed to make an accurate assessment?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    If you have friends, you trust, who care about you and are commenting on character issues\u2026 Be very wise and give weight to their input when you are making your own mind up since they may be noticing something that love\/lust blinds you to seeing.<\/p>\n

    If your friends are nitpicking the small things or picking out traits that really make no difference to you, then feel free to sail along your merry way and date or dump as you see fit.<\/p>\n

    If you haven\u2019t been very transparent and your friends think the world of your date or hate the person unequivocally, consider letting a few into your inner sanctum and give these friend enough balanced information to support you in your dating process.<\/p>\n

    I\u2019m not one to advocate following the pack mentality. After all, your friends aren\u2019t dating this person, you are. But sometimes, love CAN make you blind and its wise to take into consideration what the people who love you think.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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