{"id":519,"date":"2019-07-10T11:06:24","date_gmt":"2019-07-10T11:06:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/?p=519"},"modified":"2019-07-10T14:53:51","modified_gmt":"2019-07-10T14:53:51","slug":"good-bad-dating","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2019\/07\/good-bad-dating.html","title":{"rendered":"The Good And Bad Of Dating"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-520 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/411\/2019\/07\/1-300x169.jpg\" alt=\"1\" width=\"400\" \/>Guys, this is directed completely towards you. From the type of comments that I have been receiving from you, it appears that you forget that I\u2019m a man just like you. You also don\u2019t realize that I understand what many of you are going through. Why else would I go to all the trouble of starting a\u00a0blog that caters to men who are socially challenged and have a hard time dealing with the challenges of life?<\/p>\n<p>I didn\u2019t do this because one day I got bored and decided to make something up for the hell of it. It\u2019s because I had the same questions that you are sending me on a daily basis. \u201cWhy don\u2019t women have to change?\u201d \u201cDo men always have to do the approaching?\u201d \u201cAre women even interested in dating me?\u201d These are the same questions I asked myself all the time.<\/p>\n<p>What makes you think I don\u2019t understand the anger you\u2019re feeling inside? After a guy has been single for a long period of time, he starts to wonder why. He starts to question his looks. Am I good-looking enough? Tall enough? Built enough? Then we start to hear women talking about the tall, dark and handsome type, and it confirms what we were thinking all along.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s until we see a good-looking woman with a below-average guy who treats her like complete crap. We then scratch our heads in confusion. Maybe this guy is rich and that\u2019s why she\u2019s with him. Is he fantastic in bed? Does he have the personality we\u2019d all kill to have? Again, we\u2019re let down when we find out he possesses none of these super-hero qualities.<\/p>\n<p>This is when we start to get angry at women because we begin to think all kinds of stupid garbage. \u201cShe only likes bad boys!\u201d \u201cNice guys finish last!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ll tell you why nice guys finish last. It\u2019s because nice guys are so damn afraid of everything, including their shadows, that it\u2019s disgusting. There\u2019s no way we\u2019re going to start a conversation with that attractive woman. We decide that she\u2019s definitely going to turn us down. We never even gave ourselves a fighting chance, and instead blamed her, even though she never even met us. Then the cocky guy comes along and asks her out, and automatically that\u2019s what she likes.<\/p>\n<p>Right about now, you\u2019re most likely mad at me \u2013 and that\u2019s what I want you to be, and here\u2019s why. You need to start realizing that I\u2019m not the enemy, but an ally. Yes, I agree that many women out there need to change. Some women don\u2019t know how to treat a man right, and are downright too bossy or clingy. There are also women who are only into looks or only into money. And some are horrible to even approach in the first place.<\/p>\n<p>These are the women I tell you to avoid, because I don\u2019t want you to put yourself into a situation where you\u2019re treated like crap. Whenever you meet women like this, just walk away from them, because men don\u2019t tolerate such attitude; only boys do. Men like us focus on meeting good women who will love us. Listen to us, stand by our side even through bad times. These are hard qualities to find in anybody these days, whether a man or a woman, and that\u2019s why were being so selective.<\/p>\n<p>So, yes women do need to change, but this\u00a0blog doesn\u2019t focus on helping women. It\u2019s sole purpose is to help men develop good attitudes towards dating and life itself. With a positive attitude and outlook on life, you can start to see opportunities that lurk around you that you wouldn\u2019t see otherwise. Hating women isn\u2019t a healthy way to think, because just like with men, there are both good and bad women. Just avoid the bad ones.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Guys, this is directed completely towards you. 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