{"id":506,"date":"2019-06-27T13:32:57","date_gmt":"2019-06-27T13:32:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/?p=506"},"modified":"2019-06-27T13:34:22","modified_gmt":"2019-06-27T13:34:22","slug":"misguided-pickup-techniques-men-need-stop-using","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2019\/06\/misguided-pickup-techniques-men-need-stop-using.html","title":{"rendered":"The Misguided Pickup Techniques Men Need To Stop Using"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"berlin-busy-street-capital-2253938\"I\u2019m often reminded of the silly things men do to get a woman\u2019s attention. We\u2019ve all tried something stupid based on advice of our friends, books, or websites. Every guy has tried most of these techniques, only to end up looking like a fool, and often finding out that we\u2019ve offended someone. Women have been telling men to stop these techniques for years, and many don\u2019t listen. So here\u2019s a short list of things men, need to stop trying, to pick up women.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t Whip It Out<\/h2>\n

One of the top complaints women have about men, is our need to show them a naked picture of ourselves. Somehow, guys are convinced sending a topless photo of themselves, or penis pictures, is an effective way to swoon women. it isn\u2019t. If you\u2019re contacting a woman for the first time,\u00a0don\u2019t send her any naked pictures. It doesn\u2019t matter what type of guy you are.<\/p>\n

Quit Bragging<\/h2>\n

Women aren\u2019t impressed by a guys ego. Showing off what you have, or who you know, doesn\u2019t make you more seem impressive. For a woman who\u2019s looking for quality and substance, they care more about your qualities and not your affiliation with a friend of LeBron James. Showing off may get the attention of some women, but not most women. Often bragging about your accomplishments is annoying, instead of attractive. It\u2019s okay to talk about yourself, or what you do, but keep your ego in check<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Barking, Clapping or Whistling Never Works<\/h2>\n

Men will try anything to get a woman\u2019s attention while on the street. One tweet that caught my eye once was\u00a0a guys attempt to get her attention, but clapping. To quote her, \u201cI\u2019m not a dog!\u201d Women aren\u2019t animals in the wild that are attracted by loud sounds, shouts or by calling them \u201chey blue eyes!\u201d Often, you\u2019re not going to get anywhere with these techniques, so stop trying.<\/p>\n

Cheesy Pickup Lines<\/h2>\n

For years, guy\u2019s have been sold on cheesy pickup lines that will melt a woman\u2019s heart. Pickup lines don\u2019t work,\u00a0not with online dating,\u00a0not with real dating. They are awful. There isn\u2019t a \u201cgood\u201d pickup line; every pickup line is horrible. Replace your catalogue of cheesy, crappy pickup lines<\/a> with something normal. \u201cHi, I like your hair style, you look very good in it,\u201d works better than discussions about shiny pants, or the need for a quarter because an angel fell from heaven. Instead of using a pickup line, have a conversation!<\/p>\n

Keep Your Hands To Yourself<\/h2>\n

This particular topic has been mentioned many times all over the relatioship related blogs. Women don\u2019t like being inappropriately touched, without their permission. Which means,\u00a0do not grind against a woman, unless you know her or she asks for it. There\u2019s a level of\u00a0creepy\u00a0that\u2019s associated with the act, and in many cases it isn\u2019t going to get you anywhere. While there will be times you will be successful by performing the act, there are many times that you won\u2019t find any success.<\/p>\n

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