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\"andrew-neel-218073-unsplash\"Mixing business with pleasure is risky. You have one too many drinks at the holiday party and, suddenly, that sexy young blonde you\u2019ve been eyeing from across the office is in your bed. Maybe you\u00a0realize you don\u2019t even like her personality in the morning. Or you’re into it, but you’re worried about what people will say. The whole ordeal\u00a0can be a distraction in the work place, and so it\u2019s highly frowned upon. Here are six tips for pulling off an office romance with secrecy.<\/p>\n

Shut up about it.<\/h3>\n

This is the biggest rule of all, because without it, nothing else matters. You can be together, then quit and hate each other or be friends, but if other people in the office know, any hope of privacy goes straight out the window. So if you\u2019re going to go through with it, don\u2019t get drunk at the office happy hour and tell your coworkers your dirty little secret. Your truth will only become a mix of twisted rumors that make you, or her, look bad.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t arrive at work together.<\/h3>\n

You\u2019re going to shack up with your hookup for the night every now and then. This means eventually dragging an overnight bag along, sleeping over, getting ready for work together, and then making your way to the office… also together. But the rule here is to show up separately. Get to work on time, but one of you should show up a few minutes before or after the other. Don\u2019t ride in the same cab, or even head up in the\u00a0same elevator. Someone will catch on.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t converse through your work email.<\/h3>\n

There are just so many mistakes<\/a> that can be made here. First of all, if your boss is suspicious, they\u2019ll make sure to access your email threads and find what they need. You may also find that your work boo is on an email thread you\u2019re a part of, and you suddenly get the urge to send her\u00a0a sweet or sexy message, but accidentally click reply all. Not a good look<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re at work, be at work.<\/h3>\n

Perhaps your connection flourished over common connections while sitting at side-by-side cubicles. But when things get really real, it can be very transparent at work. Don\u2019t go from talking a lot to barely talking, of course, but try to remain casually friendly while focusing on your priority:\u00a0work.<\/p>\n

Choose discreet hangouts outside of the office.<\/h3>\n

Don\u2019t meet at the bar next to your office for happy hour. Don\u2019t go to a restaurant in the neighborhood for a romantic dinner. Either keep things at home or choose discreet neighborhood hole-in-the-wall restaurants. There\u2019s nothing more awkward than a colleague,\u00a0or your boss<\/em>, walking into an establishment to see you two\u00a0locking lips.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t tell anyone about it until it\u2019s serious.<\/h3>\n

Work flings<\/a> can be just like any other fling. They come, they go and they may be totally forgotten. But if everyone in the office knows about it, you\u2019ll never live it down. Your reputation may even be destroyed. That\u2019s why it\u2019s best to keep things on the low as much as possible until you both know it\u2019s legitimate. And if it gets to that point, then make sure your work even allows you to date coworkers\u00a0before spilling the beans.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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