{"id":353,"date":"2019-01-25T15:51:53","date_gmt":"2019-01-25T15:51:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/?p=353"},"modified":"2019-01-25T15:55:11","modified_gmt":"2019-01-25T15:55:11","slug":"rejection-isnt-end-world","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2019\/01\/rejection-isnt-end-world.html","title":{"rendered":"Rejection Isn’t The End Of The World"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Handling rejection is the most difficult aspect to dating. One of the reasons men and women hesitate from approaching is their own fear being rejected. Approaching a woman lays on the shoulder of us men, and having a woman tell us \u201cno\u2019 is a huge reason why we suffer from approach anxiety. It\u2019s also the reason we act awkward when approaching a woman, we don\u2019t know what to do.<\/p>\n

Approaching a woman is simple if you keep two things in mind: first, act as a normal human being and second, don\u2019t be scared of being told no.<\/p>\n

The corny pickup lines rarely work. The practiced sets that PUA<\/a>\u2019s often talk about are more effective, but have a large chance of not working. While magic tricks, jokes, and fluff material dating books often recommend do help, they aren\u2019t rejections silver bullet. My best successes are based on acting normally, as myself. We all respond best to a person who acts genuinely; approaching a woman is no different. It\u2019s okay to be nervous or a bit timid, but making the attempt as yourself, rather than Don Juan will make you seem less silly, and more approachable.<\/p>\n

Many of my friends would tell me, \u201cwhat are you scared of?\u201d Often, I would answer with my fear of being told no. No is a powerful word in the English vernacular; it\u2019s commanding, forceful, and poignant. However, it\u2019s just a word. At the end of the day, the word means nothing. Being told no, often doesn\u2019t break bones, harm anyone, or cause physical damage. The word only damages our emotions and mental state. The fear of the word \u201cno\u201d is often outweigh the successes of a \u201cyes\u201d although it shouldn\u2019t. The results of a \u201cyes\u201d far outweighs a \u201cno.\u201d I\u2019ve often stopped myself from approaching a woman, for the fear she may say \u201cno\u201d forgetting the fact that she may say, \u201cyes!\u201d When laid out in that manner, being scared of \u201cno\u201d sounds, and is silly. Get over the fear!<\/p>\n

Everyone is guaranteed to get rejected at some point in their life. Life doesn\u2019t provide a group of \u201cyes\u201d people. When rejection happens, life continues, and we become strengthened by the lessons or the results of the rejection. Often, rejection tends to open doors elsewhere we\u2019ve never sought.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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