{"id":26,"date":"2018-05-08T10:58:20","date_gmt":"2018-05-08T10:58:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/?p=26"},"modified":"2018-05-08T11:01:17","modified_gmt":"2018-05-08T11:01:17","slug":"avoid-playing-mom-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2018\/05\/avoid-playing-mom-relationship.html","title":{"rendered":"How to Avoid Playing \u201cMom\u201d in Your Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"relationships\"<\/p>\n

\u201cBlow for me.\u201d\u2026.Matthew McConaughey<\/a> replies with a look of disbelief and embarrassment as his co-star Kate Hudson, aka Andie Anderson, holds up a tissue to his nose in front of all his buddies.<\/p>\n

\u201cCome on, noone likes a Mr. Sniffles!\u201d Hudson exclaims as McConaughey obediently blows his nose for her, despite his audience of poker buddies staring at him.<\/p>\n

Most of us are familiar with this popular scene from the infamous chick flick\u00a0\u201cHow to Lose a Guy in Ten Days\u201d<\/a>, and we laugh as it seems so bizarre that a girl put her boyfriend through that humiliation. The truth of the matter is that we all fall victims to, or are guilty ourselves of committing this overbearing behavior . Whether it\u2019s telling our significant other who they can or cannot hang out with or wiping off their face when they\u2019re done with a meal, how do you know when you\u2019ve\u00a0crossed the line\u00a0of being a protective, caring companion and entered into an overbearing, parenting type role? Here are a few tips to ensure that he doesn\u2019t accidentally call you mom instead of your actual name.<\/p>\n

Ask, Don\u2019t tell<\/strong><\/h2>\n

\u201cWill you take out the trash babe?\u201d sounds a whole lot different then, \u201cHow about you get off the couch and take out the damn trash!\u201d If you\u2019re nagging him and getting on his ass about doing something, he\u2019s going to be a lot less apt to do it. Ask him nicely\u2026 at least a few times. If he doesn\u2019t do it, then you can jump down his throat. No, but really..<\/p>\n

Leave the Baby Talk at Home<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Calling him little pet names in front of his buddies will not only embarrass him, but he\u2019ll forever be called \u201cschnookems\u201d or \u201clove bunny\u201d by them as well. So even when he does something super cute while you\u2019re with a group of people, resist the urge to call him sugar buns and save it till later.<\/p>\n

Pay Attention to His Reaction<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Reminding him to confirm an appointment or wiping up his face after eating a messy meal may be your way of showing how much you care, but you may be stepping on his toes.. and his pride. He may enjoy you taking care of him, as many men do, but he may also be searching for independence that you\u2019re not allowing him to experience. If you do these things and he doesn\u2019t seem to mind or encourages you to engage in these caretaking behaviors, you\u2019re probably not crossing the line. If he seems perturbed or irritated and rolls his eyes or sighs when you do these things, then perhaps you\u2019re overstepping your boundaries.<\/p>\n

Communication is key<\/strong><\/h2>\n

In any case, make sure the two of you are\u00a0communicating. He may be afraid to bring up the issue because he doesn\u2019t want to hurt your feelings, so you should initiate it. Ask if it bothers him when you try taking care of him or helping him out. Use a non-threatening approach so that he doesn\u2019t feel pressured and can be honest with you. Some women can\u2019t help but let their mothering role take over, you just need to make sure that it doesn\u2019t smother your main role\u2013 the girlfriend role.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201cBlow for me.\u201d\u2026.Matthew McConaughey replies with a look of disbelief and embarrassment as his co-star Kate Hudson, aka Andie Anderson, holds up a tissue to his nose in front of all his buddies. \u201cCome on, noone likes a Mr. Sniffles!\u201d Hudson exclaims as McConaughey obediently blows his nose for her, despite his audience of poker…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":620,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[16,13,14,15,12],"class_list":["post-26","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-communication","tag-girlfriend","tag-mom","tag-mother","tag-relationship"],"yoast_head":"\nHow to Avoid Playing \u201cMom\u201d in Your Relationship - Make Your Relationship Work<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2018\/05\/avoid-playing-mom-relationship.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"How to Avoid Playing \u201cMom\u201d in Your Relationship - 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