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I get a lot of questions about what guys say versus what they really mean. \u00a0So I thought I’d take a moment to answer them, all of them, because, simply, it doesn’t matter what he “really” means. \u00a0What matters is what he’s saying to you.<\/p>\n
Simply put, if somebody you’re in a relationship says something to you, you generally need to take it at face value. \u00a0Why?<\/p>\n
Because life’s too short to do otherwise.<\/p>\n
Let’s start with what this question usually centers around: it’s less about what he “really means” and more about “please tell me I’m not hearing this correctly”. \u00a0Sorry, but you probably are. \u00a0It’s an understandable reflex; everybody’s had that moment where they hear something nasty or heartbreaking or just awful and they can’t quite believe it. \u00a0That was a mistake, right? \u00a0You didn’t say what I thought you said.<\/p>\n
Unfortunately, denial isn’t a useful tactic (really, it’s never a useful tactic, but that’s another post). \u00a0You need to deal with what’s going on in your relationship, instead of worrying about something else that might be happening only in your head.<\/p>\n
This isn’t to say men aren’t capable of playing emotional games: everybody is capable of playing emotional games. \u00a0Despite the stereotype, if we know anybody well enough, we’re more than capable of pushing each other’s buttons. \u00a0But emotional games suck, and the only way to “win” them is not to play them.<\/p>\n
Say he meant something else by whatever he said…so what? \u00a0You still need to take it at face value. \u00a0Communication is the foundation of any relationship: if you can’t communicate, you don’t have a relationship. \u00a0So trying to deliberately confuse things by telling a person one thing while meaning another is a crappy thing to do.<\/p>\n
One way or the other, the gameplayer needs to learn that, and the best way to do it is to refuse to play. \u00a0If a guy tells you something awful like “I don’t love you anymore”, it doesn’t matter if he thinks he still loves you. \u00a0He doesn’t, or he wouldn’t be pulling a stunt like this.<\/p>\n
So, in the end, whether he really means what he’s saying, or he doesn’t, take what he’s saying at face value. \u00a0In the end, what else can you do?<\/p>\n
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