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Picture this scenario\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n You meet a girl, you hit it off big-time and end up going back to hers. You sleep together. Next morning you chat for a bit and then leave. Three days later she sends you a text, something like, \u201cHi, the other night was fun\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n Everything seems hunky-dory right?<\/p>\n WRONG!<\/strong><\/p>\n What seems like a friendly and easy-going text from her was really the result of three days of But you didn\u2019t know. Your initial success is now crashing and burning quicker than a flaming Hindenberg, but how could you possibly have known what she was going through? It\u2019s not your fault, right?<\/p>\n WRONG again!<\/strong><\/p>\n In order to remain in control of a situation like this, it is crucial to be aware of the emotional factors in play.<\/p>\n In other words, you need to understand *how the girl feels* at any given moment. Not just in this situation, but in any situation you may find yourself in involving you and a female of the species.<\/p>\n This is a skill, and it has a name. It is called \u2018empathy\u2019.<\/p>\n Empathy is the skill of being able to understand how the other person is feeling in a situation. To know what they are going through, their emotional state.<\/p>\n It\u2019s really easy to overlook empathy as a useful skill. It\u2019s often an example of \u2018you don\u2019t know what you don\u2019t know\u2019.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t let this fool you though. The difference between a keen sense of empathy and little empathy is often the difference between success and failure.<\/p>\n If you are able to know how a girl is feeling at any given moment (or at lest have a pretty good idea), then you will be able to handle any situation that may arise that involves the two of you.<\/p>\n For example, in our scenario earlier, if you had realised that the girl would feel rejected by you not texting the next day, you would have known to send a text, and thus avoid any of the ensuing drama.<\/p>\n Having more empathy is more a change in mentality, than something you have to learn how to do.<\/p>\n All you need to do is imagine yourself in their situation. Think, \u2018If I was this person, how would I feel?\u2019<\/p>\n This subtle shift is all it takes to have more empathy.<\/p>\n
\nheartache and worry. She was most likely feeling depressed and rejected after you two hooked up.<\/p>\nWhy empathy matters<\/strong><\/h3>\n
How to have more empathy<\/strong><\/h3>\n