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When a woman is interested in a man, her feelings can get in the way of\u00a0what she knows a seductress would do\u00a0and it\u2019s easy to make dating mistakes-Anti-Seductive mistakes- that make his interest wane instead of build.\u00a0And since most of the women he dates are doing these things, he\u2019ll view you as one of many instead of a unique and seductive creature that he can\u2019t get out of his mind.<\/p>\n

Dating Mistakes Women Make:\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Revealing too much<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Many anti-seductive women in a hurry to create a connection\u00a0reveal too much personal information. Dating is not therapy. Don\u2019t get into your troubled childhood, problems with your ex, why you broke up, family problems, addictions, or financial stresses. And stay off the subject of\u00a0sex\u00a0and your feelings.<\/p>\n

The early dates (date 1-4) should be kept very light.\u00a0You should be happy and easy to be with. Let him lead the conversation and laugh at his jokes. Topics should include careers, music preferences, favorite movies, hobbies, current events, sports, where you grew up, family, travel\u2026you are\u00a0engaging but aloof and mysterious.\u00a0You\u2019re not an open book; he doesn\u2019t learn anything heavy which makes him want to know more.<\/p>\n

Staring at him with Goo-Goo Eyes<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Men are very sensitive to this. Good eye contact is important. You should give him your undivided attention but if you are very attracted to him you may make the mistake of giving him\u00a0\u201c<\/strong>Romance Eyes\u201d.<\/em>\u00a0The long, gazing looks that tell him you are picking out the kitchen wallpaper.<\/p>\n

A seductress makes a man feel like he can\u2019t quite catch herwhich\u00a0makes him want to keep chasing.\u00a0If your attraction is very strong, keep it under control; be\u00a0nonchalantso he cannot detect it. He should have\u00a0no idea<\/em>\u00a0where he stands with you just yet-it will make him want you more.<\/p>\n

Dressing too Sexy<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Wowing him with sheer clothing, extremely short skirts or a lot of cleavage is a\u00a0hugemistake. Men will love to look at the show and some will stick around long enough to sleep with you, but they\u2019re\u00a0NOT\u00a0going to consider you a serious candidate for a relationship. Dressing sensuous, always feminine and accentuating your best features shows you don\u2019t rely on sex and that you are a woman in control.\u00a0He wants to wonder what is under those clothes.<\/p>\n

Paying for Dates or Going Dutch<\/strong><\/h3>\n

It\u2019s\u00a0not\u00a0about money, it\u2019s about\u00a0chivalry.\u00a0A real man will want to plan the date, pick you up (or if you are meeting somewhere, drive to your side of town to make it convenient for you), open doors, and pay your way.\u00a0\u00a0Your date should want to treat you like a lady, feel like a man and be\u00a0happyto use his funds to be in your presence and show you a nice time.<\/p>\n

\u00a0A\u00a0seductive woman doesn\u2019t feel guiltyabout a man paying for her even if she earns more income than him. Don\u2019t offer to pay half or offer to drive to his side of town. Later when you are dating regularly you can reciprocate by cooking him dinner at home<\/a>, taking him out for dessert, buying the popcorn at the movies or baking for him.<\/p>\n

If a man requests that you pay half, do so very happily and\u00a0never see him again.\u00a0If he is stingy while dating, he\u2019ll be stingy throughout the whole relationship and it will show up in other areas of his personality.<\/p>\n

Calling Him and Planning Dates<\/strong><\/h3>\n

When a man is interested in you he will be calling you<\/a>. Other than to return his calls, there is no reason for you to pick up that phone in early stages of dating. Don\u2019t turn into the pursuer and begin calling him \u201cjust to say hi\u201d, or ask him out. This is not seductive and it makes men nervous. Even if you\u2019ve been dying for him to call and can\u2019t wait to hear his voice, don\u2019t jump to answer the phone each time he does call. Let every 2nd<\/sup>\u00a0or 3rd<\/sup>\u00a0call go to voice mailand call him back within in two hours if it is urgent or several hours if it isn\u2019t. This allows him time to miss you, anticipate your call and wonder where you are.<\/p>\n

Being Too Available<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Don\u2019t see him more than\u00a0once or twice a week\u00a0in the beginning. A seductive woman has a busy life: friends, hobbies, and other men chasing her! Don\u2019t stop living your usual life to make room for him.\u00a0Not being available sometimes is very, very seductive.\u00a0It will increase his interest and desire and give his mind time to fill itself with images and thoughts of you.\u00a0Over exposure kills seduction.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t accept a date for the weekend after Wednesday.<\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n

If you accept weekend dates on Thursday or Friday, he relaxes because he\u2019s learned he doesn\u2019t have to plan ahead.\u00a0Consequently dating you becomes less exciting.\u00a0When you do turn him down, don\u2019t tell him that he should have called earlier, just say \u201cI\u2019d love to but I have other plans.\u201d He knows what he has to do. If he wants his chance, he\u2019ll plan accordingly and chasing you is being seduced by you.\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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