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Not every woman you date online or meet on a dating or chat site\u00a0will look like her profile pic. Some\u00a0women post dating profile<\/a> pics from years ago. Some upload profile pics from pounds ago. You, of course, want to avoid those\u00a0women. So how can you tell if she will look like her\u00a0profile pic? No system is foolproof, but there are a few ways you can tell.<\/p>\n

* Note: \u201cAnthony\u201d and \u201cKurt\u201d asked that we change their names.<\/p>\n

1. There\u2019s only one picture on the whole profile<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Anthony James, 34, of\u00a0Seattle, had been corresponding for a few weeks with a woman he met through an online\u00a0dating\u00a0site when she invited him on a ski trip. He was nervous to go away for the weekend with someone he had never met in person \u2014 they lived in different\u00a0cities\u00a0\u2014 but he went for it. He did it primarily because her photo was\u00a0hot. It showed her wearing a skimpy\u00a0bikini\u00a0on the\u00a0beach. That it was the only photo on her profile didn\u2019t give him pause until they actually met.<\/p>\n

\u201cIn the photo she was wearing really big\u00a0sunglasses, and they hid the fact that her face looked like a catcher\u2019s mitt. She was a chronic smoker who woke up at 5 AM every day because she needed a fix. It definitely took a toll on her looks.\u201d<\/p>\n

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2. All the pics look several years old<\/strong><\/h2>\n

James should have learned his lesson after his encounter with the Marlboro woman, but he did not. Another of his online paramours was in her late 20s, but posted\u00a0photos\u00a0of herself at sorority formals and other college-era events. The woman he eventually met was 50 pounds heavier than the one in the photos, by James\u2019 estimation. Still, he found her weight less troubling than the feeling he\u2019d been deceived. \u201cIt wouldn\u2019t have been so bad if she\u2019d at least warned me,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n

3. All the pics are taken from the same angle<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Even if there are several up-to-the-minute photos on a profile, you might not be getting an idea of that person\u2019s true appearance<\/a>. For example, says Kurt O\u2019Connor, 32, of Atlanta, \u201cThe oldest trick in the book is when the\u00a0camera\u00a0is up high and the woman\u2019s face is tilting down. It\u2019s supposed to say, I\u2019m sultry and\u00a0sexy, just look in my eyes. What it really means is, I\u2019ve got an extra chin.\u201d<\/p>\n

4. The profile contains no whole body pics<\/strong><\/h2>\n

When O\u2019Connor was new to Atlanta, he used Facebook to meet local women. This was obviously a few years ago. In retrospect, he says, it was a red flag when one woman never posted any\u00a0pictures\u00a0of herself from the neck down. When they met, he explains, \u201cShe was about five feet tall and three feet around. It was like a happy Russian nesting doll was coming at me.\u201d<\/p>\n

If you do end up on a date with a woman who bears little resemblance to her hot profile pic, don\u2019t assume she lied for malicious reasons. According to Charlotte Miles, a Sydney-based marriage-family therapist and Chatrooms.org.au<\/a> blog editor, the biggest reason people lie about their appearance is desperation.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s a matter of people wanting a connection with someone and trying their utmost to up their odds in that happening. They\u2019ll do anything to get someone to respond to them. They might think in this fantastical way that when they meet someone in person, they\u2019ll be able to win them over, so it really doesn\u2019t matter anyway.\u201d<\/p>\n

With that in mind, consider going back through your own dating profile pics. Are you sure your hair hasn\u2019t receded a little since that trip to Italy? And what\u2019s up with those rowing team photos from\u00a0college? Remember, the desire to meet someone who is honest and comfortable with their appearance goes both ways.<\/p>\n

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