{"id":1269,"date":"2020-12-08T15:24:10","date_gmt":"2020-12-08T15:24:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/?p=1269"},"modified":"2020-12-08T15:24:10","modified_gmt":"2020-12-08T15:24:10","slug":"how-to-snoop-like-sherlock-holmes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/12\/how-to-snoop-like-sherlock-holmes.html","title":{"rendered":"How to Snoop Like Sherlock Holmes"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/p>\n

Anyone who\u2019s seen the Sherlock Holmes films has likely daydreamed about being a clever detective. Catching people with their pants down, chasing bad guys through alleys, doing the work the cops can\u2019t. For better or worse, says licensed P.I. Charles Clifton from <\/span>Haywood Hunt & Associates Inc<\/span><\/a>. <\/span>, the job is \u201c80 percent mind-numbing boredom,\u201d with the other 20 percent split between terror and laughing your ass off. Still, being able to privately investigate can come in handy if you\u2019re trying to figure out whether your girlfriend is cheating\u2014or which neighborhood pooch befouled your lawn. Try Clifton\u2019s secrets and you just might make Robert Downey Jr. proud.<\/span><\/p>\n

Alex\u2019s note: I strongly advise that you check to see that whatever you\u2019re going to do is legal in the city and state where you live.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Cheating girlfriend or wife<\/b><\/h2>\n

You may be surprised to hear that Clifton doesn\u2019t do a whole lot of trying to catch folks in the act. \u201cAbout 90 percent of PIs just starting out do, but I only really do that when it\u2019s a missing persons or child custody case,\u201d he says. Instead, first determine whether you have actual reasons to believe your partner is cheating. Are you just the hyper-jealous type? Before you go snooping around, make sure your suspicion is based on more than paranoia. Otherwise, you\u2019ll just create problems out of nothing.<\/span><\/p>\n

After you\u2019ve decided to snoop? Start out by checking out her social media presence. The guy she\u2019s cheating with is almost certainly on her Facebook friends list. Make a list of every alias and email address she uses online. Then do deep Google searches for each of them. (Go even deeper with the reverse email search site <\/span>spokeo.com<\/span><\/a>.) If any dating or social sites come up\u2014like, say, Adult Friend Finder\u2014discreetly join up and poke around. What you do with what you find, however, is entirely up to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Thieving employee<\/b><\/h2>\n

\u00a0<\/span>The first thing you need to decide is, do you want to fire the employee or do you want to press charges? If you just want someone fired, all you have to do is set up a camera, but watch out: you can\u2019t do that without the business owner\u2019s permission. If you\u2019re just managing the place, you\u2019re going to have to check with the higher ups. This is also problematic because it requires reviewing hours of boring footage.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>If you want to catch someone stealing cash, opt for unannounced drawer audits and forensic accounting. Getting someone to go undercover isn\u2019t a bad idea, either, but you\u2019d better pony up for a P.I. Explains Clifton: \u201cYour brother is a less reliable source than a P.I., which the courts call a \u2018disinterested third party.\u2019 \u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Pooping dog<\/b><\/h2>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Ever have a neighbor who didn\u2019t much care where his pooch did its business? Don\u2019t be the guy with the paintball gun laying in wait. It\u2019s not the dog\u2019s fault it has a crap owner (pun intended).<\/span><\/p>\n

Instead, go to your favorite big box discount retailer and get some surveillance equipment. You can get court-quality footage and haul your neighbor to small claims court for the damage doggy has been doing to your lawn. Or you can just threaten him with it, and chances are he\u2019ll curb his canine.<\/span><\/p>\n

Lying kid<\/b><\/h2>\n

\u00a0You come home from work to find your brand-new TV destroyed. Your kids\u2014or nieces and nephews\u2014taking a page from <\/span>Family Circus<\/span><\/i>, are all \u201cIda Know\u201d and \u201cNot Me.\u201d Clifton recommends a technique called \u201cshotgunning.\u201d You\u2019ve probably seen it in action before, either at the hands of a cop or your old man. It\u2019s simply asking the same question, in slightly different ways, over and over in rapid succession.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Got two kids working together? Separate them and play one against the other. Any kernel of truth is helpful. If Kid A admits he and Kid B were playing football in the house, but he wasn\u2019t near the TV, tell Kid B that Kid A ratted him out. It works on just about everyone but hardened criminals. We can only hope that term doesn\u2019t apply to your offspring.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Anyone who\u2019s seen the Sherlock Holmes films has likely daydreamed about being a clever detective. Catching people with their pants down, chasing bad guys through alleys, doing the work the cops can\u2019t. For better or worse, says licensed P.I. Charles Clifton from Haywood Hunt & Associates Inc. , the job is \u201c80 percent mind-numbing boredom,\u201d…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":620,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[144],"tags":[147,150,153,156],"class_list":["post-1269","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-cheating-and-divorce","tag-cheat","tag-cheating","tag-snoop","tag-snooping"],"yoast_head":"\nHow to Snoop Like Sherlock Holmes - Make Your Relationship Work<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"noindex, nofollow\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"How to Snoop Like Sherlock Holmes - Make Your Relationship Work\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Anyone who\u2019s seen the Sherlock Holmes films has likely daydreamed about being a clever detective. Catching people with their pants down, chasing bad guys through alleys, doing the work the cops can\u2019t. For better or worse, says licensed P.I. Charles Clifton from Haywood Hunt & Associates Inc. , the job is \u201c80 percent mind-numbing boredom,\u201d…\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/12\/how-to-snoop-like-sherlock-holmes.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Make Your Relationship Work\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2020-12-08T15:24:10+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/411\/2020\/12\/1580230765_254712_1580231063_noticia_normal-350x207.jpg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Alex Wise\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"How to Snoop Like Sherlock Holmes - Make Your Relationship Work","robots":{"index":"noindex","follow":"nofollow"},"og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"How to Snoop Like Sherlock Holmes - Make Your Relationship Work","og_description":"Anyone who\u2019s seen the Sherlock Holmes films has likely daydreamed about being a clever detective. Catching people with their pants down, chasing bad guys through alleys, doing the work the cops can\u2019t. For better or worse, says licensed P.I. Charles Clifton from Haywood Hunt & Associates Inc. , the job is \u201c80 percent mind-numbing boredom,\u201d…","og_url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/12\/how-to-snoop-like-sherlock-holmes.html","og_site_name":"Make Your Relationship Work","article_published_time":"2020-12-08T15:24:10+00:00","og_image":[{"url":"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/411\/2020\/12\/1580230765_254712_1580231063_noticia_normal-350x207.jpg"}],"author":"Alex Wise","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/12\/how-to-snoop-like-sherlock-holmes.html","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/12\/how-to-snoop-like-sherlock-holmes.html","name":"How to Snoop Like Sherlock Holmes - Make Your Relationship Work","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/#website"},"primaryImageOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/12\/how-to-snoop-like-sherlock-holmes.html#primaryimage"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/12\/how-to-snoop-like-sherlock-holmes.html#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/411\/2020\/12\/1580230765_254712_1580231063_noticia_normal-350x207.jpg","datePublished":"2020-12-08T15:24:10+00:00","dateModified":"2020-12-08T15:24:10+00:00","author":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/#\/schema\/person\/bb1a6f316ea30c450e6f03a651e64888"},"breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/12\/how-to-snoop-like-sherlock-holmes.html#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/12\/how-to-snoop-like-sherlock-holmes.html"]}]},{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/12\/how-to-snoop-like-sherlock-holmes.html#primaryimage","url":"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/411\/2020\/12\/1580230765_254712_1580231063_noticia_normal-350x207.jpg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/411\/2020\/12\/1580230765_254712_1580231063_noticia_normal-350x207.jpg"},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/12\/how-to-snoop-like-sherlock-holmes.html#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"How to Snoop Like Sherlock Holmes"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/#website","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/","name":"Make Your Relationship Work","description":"Relationship Improvement, Lifestyle Development, Personal Growth","potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/#\/schema\/person\/bb1a6f316ea30c450e6f03a651e64888","name":"Alex Wise","description":"Welcome to my blog. I\u2019m Alex. I\u2019m just a normal guy like any other guy. But what makes me different, is what makes you want to keep your eye out for my blog. I\u2019ve been studying social dynamics and personal development for the last 15 years. I\u2019ve helped men in meeting women. I\u2019ve helped men reaching their goals in life and I\u2019ve helped myself develop the lifestyle that I want. You can learn all that and draw from my experience through my blog. Why should you read this blog? The goal is simply giving you the tools and knowledge in how you can change your life and create the lifestyle that you want. Do you want to improve your dating life? Do you have goals you don\u2019t know how to reach? Do you feel that your life is boring and feel stuck? I will share my years of experience and knowledge in exactly those areas. Areas in the past which I had trouble with too. However I\u2019ve found the key to solving those problems and I\u2019m sharing it all here, so you don\u2019t have to go through years of trial and error like me. What is lifestyle development? Lifestyle development deals with every area of your life whether it\u2019s being relationships, finances, health or personal growth. The blog\u2019s aim is to help you create the amazing lifestyle that you want. Through my blog you will be able to follow my experiences and lessons. Articles and videos aimed to educate and motivate you into taking the necessary steps in getting the life you deserve. I am also a freelance editor and writer for Loveawake.com dating site.","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/author\/awise"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1269","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/620"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1269"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1269\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1275,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1269\/revisions\/1275"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1269"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1269"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1269"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}