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Everybody, and I mean EVERYBODY, I talk to who has spent any time on an Internet dating site asks me \u201cWhy don\u2019t they answer my emails?\u201d The nastiest littlest-known secret is because the guy or gal you wrote to probably is too cheap to join the site: Most sites require that you pay before you communicate.<\/p>\n
Think about it: It\u2019s to the dating site\u2019s advantage to encourage you to post your profile, and they make it free to do so. Every dating site needs lots of people\u2019s profiles and pics to draw other new members. But dating sites, like any business, need money to continue offering and improving their services, and they get people to pay up by making communication a paid-only privilege.<\/p>\n
In 2018, 37% of American singles browsed online personals. 23% of those posted their profiles, and 10% actually paid for a subscription.<\/p>\n
Match.com has roughly 50 million visitors a month, but only about a 2 millions are paid customers. So if you, in good faith, pay your membership fees, then email a cutie or two or three, you can see how the odds are really against you. It\u2019s a very high probability that the object of your interest has not paid up. And you have no way of knowing, because there\u2019s no indication of payment status on profiles. So from the cutie\u2019s point of view, with each contact the receive, they need to decide if the privilege to respond to adorable you is worth the $25 or so it will take them to join up.<\/p>\n
The second biggest reason that they don\u2019t answer your emails is that they are rude. Even if you are not interested, a short, polite note saying something like \u201cThanks for your interest, but I don\u2019t see a match here\u201d takes only seconds. You can even have it boilerplated and just paste and copy your message into an email.<\/p>\n
So here you have it: Non-answered introductory emails likely mean he\/she is cheap or rude. And you don\u2019t want either, do you? And by the way, you don\u2019t want to be seen as cheap or rude either, so pay up and say \u201cThanks but no thanks\u201d to all who think you are a hunk.<\/p>\n
P.S.<\/strong> If you post a profile, play fair: Pay the fee! Most sites offer great deals for multiple months (less <\/em>that 50 cents a day!). You\u2019ll be financially supporting the site you are using and sharing the costs with the other fair-playing members. The dating sites will be able to improve their services with the money you send. And your posted profile, which implies that you are available for communication, will actually be telling the truth!<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Everybody, and I mean EVERYBODY, I talk to who has spent any time on an Internet dating site asks me \u201cWhy don\u2019t they answer my emails?\u201d The nastiest littlest-known secret is because the guy or gal you wrote to probably is too cheap to join the site: Most sites require that you pay before you…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":620,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-124","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"\n