{"id":1170,"date":"2020-11-05T14:25:40","date_gmt":"2020-11-05T14:25:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/?p=1170"},"modified":"2020-11-05T14:25:40","modified_gmt":"2020-11-05T14:25:40","slug":"relationships-schmilationships-whens-the-baby-coming","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/11\/relationships-schmilationships-whens-the-baby-coming.html","title":{"rendered":"Relationships Schmilationships! When\u2019s the Baby Coming??!!"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Whether you base it on statistical evidence or perceptual awareness, it is clear that relationships today aren\u2019t given as much importance as they were one or two generations ago. The \u201cgeneration gap\u201d between the three concurrent generations still on this side of Hades seems to be stretching the bounds of morality as well as tradition. The \u201cone woman man\u201d is already a thing of the past \u2013 if it\u2019s fair to say that; and there\u2019s certainly no strong \u201cmonogamistic\u201d persuasion coming from the female half of the population either. So why are relationships getting less priority today than 50, 30 or even 20 years ago?<\/p>\n

Statistically, the \u201cMillenials\u201d, as they\u2019ve been dubbed \u2013 those Americans born between 1982 and 2003 \u2013 hold the short end of the stick. A survey by Pew Research<\/a> clearly shows that less than a third of these individuals consider a successful marriage to be important. On a more relevant note, more than 50% of those surveyed considered good parenting abilities to be crucial.<\/p>\n

What Do These Statistics Actually Mean?<\/strong><\/h2>\n

For someone from the Baby Boomer generation, role models were strong and the concept of marriage was a whole lot less \u201cfluid\u201d than it is today. Generation X came next with its more permissive behavior and so-called tolerance towards instability within relationships. And finally, Generation Y, or the Millenials, who seem to consider marriage as nothing more than a legitimization of parenthood!<\/p>\n

The statistics are merely indicative of a prevailing sentiment about the institution of marriage<\/a>. In such a world, it might seem na\u00efve to harp on the\u00a0beauty\u00a0of relationships and the magic of soul mate friendships, but the fact is that this society that confronts us today is regressing in the one critical area that can bring people together \u2013 relationships.<\/p>\n

The bottom line here is that people want to focus more on being good parents than being good partners for each other. They\u2019re more eager than ever to become parents because of all the good things they can give their kids today. But isn\u2019t that the same with every generation before and probably after this one?<\/p>\n

There\u2019s no couple in the world that doesn\u2019t at least think once \u2013 in passing, at least \u2013 about having kids. It\u2019s a natural circle of life after all, isn\u2019t it? But the issue here is: why don\u2019t they focus as much on the very thing that leads to children \u2013 love and relationship?? Ah, now there\u2019s the rub. This generation X, Y, Z \u2013 or whatever label you want to put on it \u2013 seems to have its priorities confused. They don\u2019t seem to think that the relationship with their partner is as important as the result of it! Let\u2019s take a look at this paradox and why it needs a solution\u2026<\/p>\n

Why Relationships are Important<\/strong><\/h2>\n

From the moment a new-born infant recognizes its mother\u2019s scent\/feel\/touch\/taste\/sound, it forms a relationship made of positive associations. The security and comfort of a mother-child relationship is unparalleled. From this sprouts other types of relationships, such as those enjoyed with siblings; then it is about closeness with friends and confidantes; finally, the one relationship that you\u2019ve been waiting for all your life \u2013 the one that completes you.<\/p>\n

At each stage, we form inviolable bonds with other human beings with diverse likes and dislikes. The bond itself is the only thing that ties us together, and it is this bond that is the basis of all relationships. Whether it is the love of a son for his mother or a man for his lover, the glue of interdependency is what keeps it all together. We fulfill each other emotionally, physically, sexually and mentally, and unless all of this tapestry is woven together with the greatest of care, it is easily ripped apart by the slightest of strains.<\/p>\n

The Solution<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Don\u2019t lose faith in the power of true relationships<\/a>. If you\u2019re want to give your kids all the love you ever got, then you first have to give and get \u2013 from your partner; from your lover; from your soul mate; from the One. This is the only foundation you can lay for a solid relationship with anyone else in your life \u2013 including your children.<\/p>\n

True love, as much as true friendship, is a hard thing to find and a harder thing to protect. So when you find it, treasure it and nurture it so it can bloom forth and stimulate others. One good relationship is a mere Band-Aid for today\u2019s society of skeptics; ten of them are an eye-opener for others; a hundred will make them sit up and take notice; a thousand will change the future of relationships. Why don\u2019t you start the chain reaction?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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