{"id":1134,"date":"2020-10-26T15:37:12","date_gmt":"2020-10-26T15:37:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/?p=1134"},"modified":"2020-10-26T15:38:36","modified_gmt":"2020-10-26T15:38:36","slug":"why-attracting-women-is-a-choice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/10\/why-attracting-women-is-a-choice.html","title":{"rendered":"Why Attracting Women Is a Choice"},"content":{"rendered":"

When it comes to the subject of attracting women and whether that interests you or not the answer is obviously a resounding \u201cyes,\u201d but what probably never crosses your mind is that it\u2019s also a choice.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s what I mean\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n

You might be so busy trying to attract women<\/strong>\u00a0using the old,\u00a0traditional way of over-pursuing them<\/strong>\u00a0by walking around with a desperate vibe, approaching women<\/a> as if you want something, spouting off some rehearsed line, not listening, asking for a phone number, and asking them out on a traditional date, that you\u2019re actually trying to make \u201cattracting women\u201d happen instead of\u00a0choosing it.\u00a0\u00a0When you choose it, you\u2019re focusing on being a guy who actually attracts women naturally<\/strong>\u00a0by who you\u2019re being and then what you\u2019re doing.<\/p>\n

Honestly, even though a lot of guys say that they want to attract women,\u00a0most men \u201cpursue\u201d women rather than attract them<\/strong>.\u00a0 Or they pursue, in order to attract them. And, once you start pursuing, you usually over-pursue and then wonder why\u00a0they eventually lose interest in you<\/strong>.\u00a0 It really comes down to a choice.\u00a0\u00a0Do you want to pursue or be pursued?\u00a0<\/strong>\u00a0If you want to be pursued then you have to stop doing most of the things that pursuers do and\u00a0fully commit to the process of being a guy who naturally attracts women.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Another thing lot of guys do is what I call the\u00a0\u201c50\/50.\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0They say they\u2019re committed to being a guy who attracts women naturally and they take on some of the mindsets and techniques required but in the back of their mind the whole idea is being used as a\u00a0technique\u00a0to get to the point in the interaction where they can begin pursuing again. So, they come out of the gate as a strong, confident, carefree, sexy guy who knows he always attracts the women he wants and then\u00a0as soon as a woman shows some interest he reverts back to being a pursuer.\u00a0<\/strong>In this case they\u2019ve chosen to be a pursuer. And then, of course, they complain about the negative results they\u2019re getting and wander around wondering what could have gone wrong. You have to make a choice to commit 100% to attracting women without pursuing or you won\u2019t realize the full potential of this way of doing things.<\/p>\n

When you make the choice to\u00a0commit to a life of being a man who\u2019s pursued by women<\/strong>, something changes.\u00a0 For the first time you\u2019re actually in\u00a0control of your life<\/strong>\u00a0and gone are the days of not knowing if a woman is interested in you or not, because every women who approaches you, asks for your contact info, asks you to hook up or hits on you in any way or in any situation is already interested; so there\u2019s no convincing or trying needed.<\/p>\n

Saying that you want to attract women<\/a> and actually committing to what it takes to do so and\u00a0abandoning the old traditional\u00a0seduction methods<\/strong>\u00a0is the defining factor in having the highest level of success possible.\u00a0 So, choose to\u00a0be a guy who naturally attracts women<\/strong>\u00a0and women will be naturally attracted to you all the time!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When it comes to the subject of attracting women and whether that interests you or not the answer is obviously a resounding \u201cyes,\u201d but what probably never crosses your mind is that it\u2019s also a choice. Here\u2019s what I mean\u2026 You might be so busy trying to attract women\u00a0using the old,\u00a0traditional way of over-pursuing them\u00a0by…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":620,"featured_media":1140,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[48],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1134","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-first-dates"],"yoast_head":"\nWhy Attracting Women Is a Choice - Make Your Relationship Work<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"noindex, nofollow\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Why Attracting Women Is a Choice - Make Your Relationship Work\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"When it comes to the subject of attracting women and whether that interests you or not the answer is obviously a resounding \u201cyes,\u201d but what probably never crosses your mind is that it\u2019s also a choice. Here\u2019s what I mean\u2026 You might be so busy trying to attract women\u00a0using the old,\u00a0traditional way of over-pursuing them\u00a0by…\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/10\/why-attracting-women-is-a-choice.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Make Your Relationship Work\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2020-10-26T15:37:12+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2020-10-26T15:38:36+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/411\/2020\/10\/adam-winger-Xt4g9VbMljE-unsplash.jpg\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"768\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"513\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/jpeg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Alex Wise\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Why Attracting Women Is a Choice - Make Your Relationship Work","robots":{"index":"noindex","follow":"nofollow"},"og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"Why Attracting Women Is a Choice - Make Your Relationship Work","og_description":"When it comes to the subject of attracting women and whether that interests you or not the answer is obviously a resounding \u201cyes,\u201d but what probably never crosses your mind is that it\u2019s also a choice. Here\u2019s what I mean\u2026 You might be so busy trying to attract women\u00a0using the old,\u00a0traditional way of over-pursuing them\u00a0by…","og_url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/10\/why-attracting-women-is-a-choice.html","og_site_name":"Make Your Relationship Work","article_published_time":"2020-10-26T15:37:12+00:00","article_modified_time":"2020-10-26T15:38:36+00:00","og_image":[{"width":768,"height":513,"url":"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/411\/2020\/10\/adam-winger-Xt4g9VbMljE-unsplash.jpg","type":"image\/jpeg"}],"author":"Alex Wise","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/10\/why-attracting-women-is-a-choice.html","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/10\/why-attracting-women-is-a-choice.html","name":"Why Attracting Women Is a Choice - Make Your Relationship Work","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/#website"},"primaryImageOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/10\/why-attracting-women-is-a-choice.html#primaryimage"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/10\/why-attracting-women-is-a-choice.html#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/411\/2020\/10\/adam-winger-Xt4g9VbMljE-unsplash.jpg","datePublished":"2020-10-26T15:37:12+00:00","dateModified":"2020-10-26T15:38:36+00:00","author":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/#\/schema\/person\/bb1a6f316ea30c450e6f03a651e64888"},"breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/10\/why-attracting-women-is-a-choice.html#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/10\/why-attracting-women-is-a-choice.html"]}]},{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/10\/why-attracting-women-is-a-choice.html#primaryimage","url":"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/411\/2020\/10\/adam-winger-Xt4g9VbMljE-unsplash.jpg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/411\/2020\/10\/adam-winger-Xt4g9VbMljE-unsplash.jpg","width":768,"height":513},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/10\/why-attracting-women-is-a-choice.html#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Why Attracting Women Is a Choice"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/#website","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/","name":"Make Your Relationship Work","description":"Relationship Improvement, Lifestyle Development, Personal Growth","potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/#\/schema\/person\/bb1a6f316ea30c450e6f03a651e64888","name":"Alex Wise","description":"Welcome to my blog. I\u2019m Alex. I\u2019m just a normal guy like any other guy. But what makes me different, is what makes you want to keep your eye out for my blog. I\u2019ve been studying social dynamics and personal development for the last 15 years. I\u2019ve helped men in meeting women. I\u2019ve helped men reaching their goals in life and I\u2019ve helped myself develop the lifestyle that I want. You can learn all that and draw from my experience through my blog. Why should you read this blog? The goal is simply giving you the tools and knowledge in how you can change your life and create the lifestyle that you want. Do you want to improve your dating life? Do you have goals you don\u2019t know how to reach? Do you feel that your life is boring and feel stuck? I will share my years of experience and knowledge in exactly those areas. Areas in the past which I had trouble with too. However I\u2019ve found the key to solving those problems and I\u2019m sharing it all here, so you don\u2019t have to go through years of trial and error like me. What is lifestyle development? Lifestyle development deals with every area of your life whether it\u2019s being relationships, finances, health or personal growth. The blog\u2019s aim is to help you create the amazing lifestyle that you want. Through my blog you will be able to follow my experiences and lessons. Articles and videos aimed to educate and motivate you into taking the necessary steps in getting the life you deserve. I am also a freelance editor and writer for Loveawake.com dating site.","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/author\/awise"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1134","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/620"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1134"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1134\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1152,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1134\/revisions\/1152"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1140"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1134"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1134"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1134"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}