{"id":1125,"date":"2020-10-26T14:07:57","date_gmt":"2020-10-26T14:07:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/?p=1125"},"modified":"2020-10-26T14:07:57","modified_gmt":"2020-10-26T14:07:57","slug":"the-thinning-male-skin","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/10\/the-thinning-male-skin.html","title":{"rendered":"The Thinning Male Skin"},"content":{"rendered":"

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I love to watch old movies, movies from the\u00a040\u2019s, 50\u2019s, and 60\u2019s, movies<\/strong>\u00a0that were made when there was a real threat to this country, either\u00a0from the Nazi\u2019s or the Communists.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Certainly this country has enemies, but the threat of defeat or destruction by another country has receded, replaced with localized violence.<\/p>\n

If you watch these old movies, you\u2019ll see interactions between men (and women) that today would be considered shocking.<\/strong>\u00a0Back then<\/strong>, they were considered run of the mill, because\u00a0men had very thick skin.<\/strong><\/p>\n

There was a draft, and almost the entire male population had served in the military, played a tough team sport, or done manual labor that required a group of men to work as a team.<\/p>\n

Every\u00a0man that entered the group went through a rite of passage<\/strong>,\u00a0to toughen him up<\/strong>\u00a0and see if he was able to function as a reliable member of a team, something you\u2019d better know before you go to war or before you go to work.<\/p>\n

Part of that was\u00a0tolerating others trying to get under your skin<\/strong>, breaking your balls, most in a good natured manner, a few bad apples in a\u00a0sadistic manner<\/strong>. I\u2019ve done that several times, in the Navy (to a small extent), in the oilfield, and in business, which is a unique challenge to your mental toughness.<\/p>\n

I know plenty of other men who do the same, and when we hang out, we give each other the business, make fun of each of other, swap funny stories, and break each other\u2019s balls. If you\u2019ve seen the excellent coming of age movie,\u00a0Gran Torino, starring Clint Eastwood<\/strong>, you\u2019ll see a few examples of this.<\/p>\n

Lately, though,\u00a0I\u2019ve noticed a\u00a0thinning of the male skin<\/strong>. Football players throw down their lunch trays and quit on their team (something that used to be the worst sin any man could commit), people\u00a0whine about mean things that were said to them<\/strong>, and males are traumatized by being spoken too sternly by a superior so much so they think they need therapy.<\/p>\n

This is, as you might imagine,\u00a0unattractive to women<\/strong>, because no matter how brutal your guy friends can be,\u00a0women can be more brutal<\/strong>. They try to get under your skin to see if you can take it, because\u00a0if you can\u2019t stand up to them, you can\u2019t stand up for them<\/strong>. It\u2019s a test for strength, and most\u00a0men fail by arguing, throwing tantrums, fighting and pouting.<\/strong>\u00a0The man who passes is the man with thick skin who recognizes the\u00a0test for strength, and happily accepts it.<\/p>\n

One of the most important attributes of being a real man is the\u00a0ability to take what others throw at you, without letting it disturb your good humor.<\/strong>\u00a0That is an attractive attribute, one most of today\u2019s males with thin skin lack.\u00a0Thicken yours up, laugh at whatever is thrown at you, overcome it, throw it back, and associate with other thick skinned men.<\/strong>\u00a0You will discover your thick skin attracts opportunity, and it attracts women. Being thin skinned repels both.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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