{"id":1012,"date":"2020-09-04T14:24:27","date_gmt":"2020-09-04T14:24:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/?p=1012"},"modified":"2020-09-04T14:24:27","modified_gmt":"2020-09-04T14:24:27","slug":"the-top-8-reasons-why-men-cheat-on-the-women-theyre-with","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/makeyourrelationshipwork\/2020\/09\/the-top-8-reasons-why-men-cheat-on-the-women-theyre-with.html","title":{"rendered":"The Top 8 Reasons Why Men Cheat On The Women They\u2019re With"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Women express love their emotions and sharing, while men tend to express love through sex. As animals, the male sex in its most basic form, is strictly there to drop its seed and perpetuate the species. Marriage is not an animal construct, but one of faith and humanity. So apart from the fact that men may just be biologically predisposed to cheat, why do we do it?<\/p>\n

8. He Doesn\u2019t See You As Attractive Anymore<\/h2>\n

Marriage and long-term relationships can make a person feel \u2018lazy\u2019. Knowing that after a hard day\u2019s work you can grab some Del Taco, settle in front of the TV, and relax the night away, can be a tempting downward spiral to get stuck in. Because men need to be physically stimulated in order to achieve an erection, in order to have sex – his woman simply needs to be sexy to him or else he will not only lose the desire, but the ability to have sex.<\/p>\n

Most women can get turned on by a romantic gesture<\/a>, because for them there is no physical action required for sex – merely for orgasm. This difference often causes those nasty \u2019she let herself go\u2019 scenarios. Also as you age, those gorgeous and young mistresses, may become increasingly attractive.<\/p>\n

7. He Finds The Challenge Exciting<\/h2>\n

Sometimes for men the thrill is in the hunt. After the way you look when you wake up no longer becomes cute, he may feel that he \u2019settled\u2019. He may be in the \u201cI Love You But I\u2019m Not In Love With You\u201d stage. For many men the excitement of sexual conquests and trophies brings back that exciting competitive feeling in him. Like getting to taste all 31 flavors while always having his favorite as backup.<\/p>\n

6. He Doesn\u2019t Love You Anymore<\/h2>\n

After a long time in a relationship, he may feel that he\u2019s lost the feelings he once had for you. Often because he knows that you have the power to be hit on and made special by any man with a pulse, he may feel that leaving you would be the wrong thing to do.<\/p>\n

Cheating wouldn\u2019t be fair – but it would be easier. Like a band-aid though, this often just prolongs the pain and complicate matters. I personally know of several people who \u201cstay together\u201d, yet see other people. Sometimes knowingly. The thought of separating is just too radical.<\/p>\n

5. It Boosts His Self Esteem<\/h2>\n

Men are competitive creatures. Males fight to the death for the right to mate with a Female. The mention of someone else\u2019s sizeable package, or that a friend gets extraordinary sex, or that another guy is hot, may lead the man to feel threatened.<\/p>\n

When in a relationship for a long time, the man can wonder if he\u2019s still as marketable as he feels he once was. For another woman to give him the sense of being desirable can be a siren\u2019s song, leading him to cheat<\/a>.<\/p>\n

4. He Feels You Complain Too Much<\/h4>\n

Men are taught to go to work, provide for their family, pay the bills, and successfully play the \u201cAlpha\u201d role in the relationship. Even sex can become work when the man doesn\u2019t want to get nagged about a less-than-stellar performance. Many men have known at least one woman who seems to get off on making him feel like crap.<\/p>\n

Stupid fights – like the one\u00a0Dane Cook calls \u201cThe Nothing Fight<\/strong>\u201c<\/a>\u00a0can drain a man\u2019s willpower even further. In these cases, the allure of another woman can be the Advil he\u2019s been searching for.<\/p>\n

3. The Opportunity Was There<\/h2>\n

Women can agree to this – most men just can\u2019t say \u201cNo\u201d to sex. Men are taught to chase, while women get to relax and allow suitors to come HER way. When the tables are flipped and now the man is getting the attention he usually has to work to GIVE – he\u2019s likely to be seduced.<\/p>\n

He knows it may never happen again. Perhaps the ex-girlfriend is lonely and sends him a text message<\/a>. Perhaps he\u2019s at a party or wedding and the drunk bridesmaid or old friend starts getting frisky.<\/p>\n

2. He\u2019s Not Satisfied Sexually Anymore<\/h2>\n

Statistically, in America, long-term relationships just suck the sex drive out of many women. It could be because she doesn\u2019t want to try new things in bed, the sex has become boring. Or because she won\u2019t perform fellatio any longer – or never did.<\/p>\n

Sometimes it\u2019s due to the man\u2019s failure to communicate<\/a> what he wants, leaving the dirty work up to a mistress. There\u2019s a joke that the best way to get a woman to stop having sex with you, is to marry her.<\/p>\n

1. He Knows You\u2019ll Forgive Him<\/h2>\n

Because women separate sex from \u2018love\u2019, they are able to grow to see one from the other. It\u2019s likely you know someone who has had a cheating boyfriend\/husband before. But as he plays a societally dominant role, and because you gain benefits of being a \u2018couple\u2019 with him – you\u2019re likely to learn to look past the infidelity.<\/p>\n

Hillary Clinton had to face this when the Bill Clinton Intern scandal broke out. She could either give it all up, or instead keep her wits and continue to gain the benefits of being a first wife. After all, she knows she wasn\u2019t the first first wife to be cheated on. The ladies in the relationship may even blame themselves and try to find ways to improve the relationship. Perhaps due to the fear of being alone.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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