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The many ways in which kids use texting has been a well-covered topic by psychologists, educators, parents and the media. It seems that many of our children communicate through text. They ask each other out, they date, they fight and they break-up all through texts. This process is leading them to communicate impulsively and to say things without actually considering the impact their words will have on another.<\/p>\n

Last night I was thinking about this generational development of using texts to communicate and I found myself having a conversation in my head with Caidin about the downsides to this: there is a lack of responsibility and ownership of words chosen, it\u2019s impersonal, it\u2019s disconnected, it doesn\u2019t allow one to develop the ability to talk, discuss, debate in a face-to-face situation. Then I realized that this conversation would be much more meaningful if instead of telling Caidin what I thought, I found out first, what he thought about it. I decided I would ask him on the way to school.<\/p>\n

Before we headed out this morning, we did a little reading which always sets a great tone for the rest of our morning routine. We are reading this book called \u2018Wings of Fire: The Dragonet Prophecy\u2019 by Tui T. Sutherland and both of us are enjoying it very much. We finished Chapter 4 and then gathered all of Caidin\u2019s things for school and got in the car.<\/p>\n

We started driving and Caidin said \u2018look at that little dark cloud there, isn\u2019t that funny?\u2019 As I looked, I laughed. It was funny. This morning the sky was crystal clear blue, with the exception of one little lone wispy dark cloud. This led Caidin to ask \u2018do clouds disintegrate or what happens to them? \u2018 Hmmm, with no answer for that one, I said, \u2018I don\u2019t know, maybe ask your science teacher or we can look it up when you get home?\u2019<\/p>\n

We drove a bit in silence and I went to turn on the radio and then I remember my question. I started by telling Caidin about all the articles I\u2019ve been reading lately about the ways in which kids use texting, explaining the dating and break-up aspects and then I said \u2018what do you think about that?\u2019<\/p>\n

To which he responded, \u2018I don\u2019t understand that. If you really like someone asking them out should come from the heart and should be done in person.\u2019 I asked another question, \u2018why do you think kids use texts to have conversations like this, conversations that matter, like dating and breaking-up?\u2019<\/p>\n

He thought for a bit and then said \u2018maybe it\u2019s easier to not have to see the other person.\u2019 This opened the door to a conversation about life and life lessons, and about whether or not \u2018easier\u2019 should be the deciding factor about the way in which we choose to do things.<\/p>\n

All-in-all it was a great conversation about many things \u2013 dating, texting, communication, life lessons. What made it great was that it was<\/em> a conversation. It wasn\u2019t me telling him what I think \u00a0or telling him the ways in which I think he should handle himself in life. I got to see what he believes and what his own sensibilities are, because I asked a question.<\/p>\n

This approach can be used at any age. Remember though, if you ask your child a question it is important not to discount their thoughts or position. If you ask them what they think and then you tell them they are wrong, you\u2019re not going to get anywhere and you run the risk of them shutting down. But if you ask them what they think and then share your thoughts as well, you can move into a meaningful conversation about the principles behind \u00a0each of your positions.<\/p>\n

(C) 2012 Christine Agro<\/p>\n

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Christine Agro is a clairvoyant, naturopath, Master Herbalist, conscious mom and author of 50 Ways to Live Life Consciously as well as of The Conscious Living Wisdom Cards (Special Moms\u2019 Edition). Christine is founder of The Conscious Mom\u2019s Guide , a membership site where she helps support you on your own journey of living life consciously and on your journey of being a Conscious parent. You can also join Christine on\u00a0Facebook<\/a>. To contact Christine, invite her to speak or to schedule an appointment with her please\u00a0email<\/a>\u00a0her.<\/p>\n

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