{"id":451,"date":"2012-06-26T14:44:11","date_gmt":"2012-06-26T18:44:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lifeasaconsciousmom\/?p=451"},"modified":"2012-06-28T11:15:55","modified_gmt":"2012-06-28T15:15:55","slug":"no-shortage-of-firsts-letting-go-of-fear","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lifeasaconsciousmom\/2012\/06\/26\/no-shortage-of-firsts-letting-go-of-fear\/","title":{"rendered":"No Shortage of Firsts \u2013 Letting go of fear."},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>My Mom took us to Disney World last year. We stayed for a whole week at the All-Star Music Resort and visited each of the theme parks. It was a wonderful experience, for the most part.<\/p>\n

One day, on return from one of the parks, we reached our hotel elevator and Caidin, who was seven at the time, asked \u201ccan I take the stairs?\u201d I thought for a minute. It was one flight, what could possibly happen between ground level and the 2nd<\/sup> floor? Plus having some independence would be a good thing. \u201cYes,\u201d I said, \u201cbut meet me right in front of the elevator.”<\/p>\n

He takes off up the\u00a0stairs. The elevator is right there when I push the button. The doors open, I get on, the doors close, up I go to the next floor and the doors open. Caidin is not there. I run up the stairs to the next floor to make sure he didn\u2019t go up one to many, I run back down to the ground floor to double check. I run back to the second floor and start running through the corridors yelling for him. Nothing.<\/p>\n

I run back downstairs and out to the sidewalk so that I can see the entire building \u2013 nothing.<\/p>\n

I run back upstairs to get my Mom. I pound on the door, yelling \u2018Mom, I can\u2019t find Caidin,\u2019 and who opens the door, but Caidin. I ask him what happened and he says \u2018I went to the room.\u2019 Ah, ya, I can see that. So I say \u2018I told you to wait in front of the elevator.\u2019 \u2018Oh, I didn\u2019t hear you.\u2019 GAHHHH! I didn’t get angry, I just made a mental note to make sure directions are\u00a0absolutely\u00a0clear in the future.<\/p>\n

We are faced with many firsts in our child\u2019s lifetime. The first time they sleep over at a friend\u2019s, the first time they go on a field trip without you, the first time they ride their bike somewhere, or drive on their own. Firsts are at every turn.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, living in NYC, there are so many stories of \u2018firsts\u2019 gone wrong. Etan Patz \u2013 the six year old who walked to the bus on his own for the first time and disappeared in 1979, the little boy in Brooklyn last year who walked home alone from school for the first time and was murdered \u2013 so having fear isn\u2019t irrational, but we do have to let our kids grow up.<\/p>\n

I think the best we can do is prepare our children, arm them with tools and information like what do if they get lost or find themselves with friends and aren\u2019t comfortable with the direction things are going. And then trust. Trust in whatever you believe in, be it God, or Spiritual paths, trust. Personally I believe we all have our own life plan and when it\u2019s our time to leave, it\u2019s our time to leave. The way in which we do this is connected to the way in which we agreed to touch or impact the lives of others.<\/p>\n

Some of the things we\u2019ve done to help prepare Caidin is to talk about different scenarios, we\u2019ve done role playing and we got him a cell phone when he decided he wanted to take the bus for the first time mid-year. I believe in the power of energy so I put a bubble of protection around Caidin. My husband has his own beliefs so he prayers for Caidin every day.<\/p>\n

I guess I don\u2019t have a solution or an answer for you today. But I want you to know, if you experience fear around \u2018firsts\u2019 with your child, you aren\u2019t alone. No one can tell you when it is the right time to let your child try something or do something. So don\u2019t feel pressured, know who your own child is and how they react and respond in situations and then when you make that decision to let them go, try to let go of the fear and breathe.<\/p>\n

Chances are all will be O.K. and you can check another \u2018first\u2019 off the list.<\/p>\n

\u00a9 2012 Christine Agro<\/p>\n

Remember, join me at\u00a0The Conscious Mom\u2019s Guide<\/a>\u00a0for more insight, guidance and to connect with a growing group of conscious parents.<\/p>\n

If you are interested in exploring your own Spiritual Agreements with your child, join me at\u00a0The Conscious Mom\u2019s Guide<\/a>\u00a0for a special talk on the topic and you\u2019ll have an opportunity to ask me for insight into one of your agreements with your child during the Q&A.<\/p>\n

Have questions about your child or need support? Christine offers\u00a0private readings<\/a>\u00a0as well as on-line support at\u00a0The Consicous Mom\u2019s Guide<\/a><\/p>\n

Christine Agro is a clairvoyant, naturopath, Master Herbalist, conscious mom and author of 50 Ways to Live Life Consciously as well as of The Conscious Living Wisdom Cards (Special Moms\u2019 Edition). Christine is founder of The Conscious Mom\u2019s Guide , a membership site where she helps support you on your own journey of living life consciously and on your journey of being a Conscious parent. You can also join Christine on\u00a0Facebook<\/a>. To contact Christine, invite her to speak or to schedule an appointment with her please\u00a0email<\/a>\u00a0her<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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