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Flower of Hope<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Normally my column is written to parents and grandparents and teachers in the hopes that they will see you as the strong and powerful people you are. In the hopes that they will support you and guide you in navigating this world and in the hopes that they will foster the flame of consciousness that each of you was born with.<\/p>\n

Today, I write to you directly.<\/p>\n

A few days ago I wrote a post because I was both saddened and discouraged. It was about the death of 15 year old Amanda Todd who lived in British Columbia, Canada. After enduring heartbreaking and unthinkable treatment from her peers, she chose to end her life. \u00a0(The Importance of Demonstrating and Teaching Compassion \u2013 RIP Amanda Todd.)<\/a><\/p>\n

I understand that she made some really bad choices. Many teens do. I did. I made bad choices as a teen, the only difference, there was no internet, there were no cell phones or digital cameras and there was no facebook or twitter. Mistakes were made, I had to endure my own embarrassment of walking into school and facing my peers, but my friends remained my friends and the whole world didn\u2019t become a part of it to weigh in and cast judgment.<\/p>\n

What I don\u2019t understand are the actions of not just one but many to make her life a living hell.<\/p>\n

I think that adults oftentimes give you way to little credit and way too little responsibility.<\/p>\n

What I know about kids today is that you are amazing, you are powerful, you have the ability to live consciously if you choose and although many of you are unaware of it, you have the ability to link together energetically, without even knowing each other, and with this ability you can create immeasurable positive change.<\/p>\n

I want to tell you what bothers me most about Amanda\u2019s story. At every point in this story, everyone involved had moments of choice \u2013 to stand-up, to reach out a hand or to conversely jump on the \u2018hate\u2019 Amanda bandwagon and go along for the ride. In Amanda\u2019s story, something like 50 kids got together to torment her in front of her new school. They banded together, using this unconscious ability to connect with each other and traveled to her new school just so they could continue to tear her down.<\/p>\n

Bullying is about feeling powerful and whether you are five years old or fifteen years old or fifty years old, it is the same. It\u2019s about making you feel better, filling the empty space within, by tearing someone else down. There is a sense of power that comes when a group gangs up on a single person, whether it\u2019s\u00a0kindergartners\u00a0chanting \u2018cry baby\u2019 or it\u2019s fifteen year olds chanting \u2018slut\u2019. But that sense of power comes at a price. It isn\u2019t true power, it is mob power. It\u2019s what William Golding wrote about in his book Lord of The Flies. It\u2019s savage instinct.<\/p>\n

So much is being said by adults about bullying today. I\u2019m reminded of the anti-drug campaigns when I was a teen. There was one commercial that aired that said \u2018this is your brain, this is your brain on drugs\u2019 and we all made fun of it. These commercials were so hopelessly out of touch and didn\u2019t speak to us at all. It was an adult\u2019s way of trying to convey that drugs were bad. The commercial showed an egg being fried in a frying pan.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t think adults telling you what you should be thinking or doing is the answer. I think the answers need to come from you. The change needs to come from you.<\/p>\n

I do think that adults have an important role to play in supporting you in making good choices; but I think each of you has an even bigger role in deciding what kind of world you want to live, in deciding what types of people you want to surround yourself with, in deciding what is acceptable and what\u00a0isn’t.<\/p>\n

Every day you make choices, whether you are aware of them or not. It\u2019s time to start to make those choices with conscious awareness.<\/p>\n

Power is intoxicating, in any form, but the best kind of power comes when you stand up for another, when you embrace someone who has been beaten, when you take a stand and say \u2018no\u2019.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t underestimate your power to create positive change, all it takes is one and then another and another to stand up and say \u2018enough is enough\u2019.<\/p>\n

I ask you all to think about ways in which you can help put an end to, what really is, this devaluing of human life.<\/p>\n

There is book written by Malcolm Gladwell called \u2018The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference\u2019 and it talks about that \u2018magic moment when an idea, trend, or social behavior crosses a threshold, tips, and spreads like wildfire\u2019[1]<\/a>.<\/p>\n

So far, a negative Tipping Point has fueled dehumanization \u2013 whether it\u2019s kids posting girl on girl fight videos on YouTube or it\u2019s using social media to destroy another\u2019s life; the speed at which these things take off and create very real life experiences is mind boggling and in too many cases life-destroying.<\/p>\n

What kind of positive Tipping Point can you create?<\/p>\n

I hope that in future days each of you will make the choice to empower not only yourself but those in your life, whether you know them or not.<\/p>\n

With hope,<\/p>\n

Christine<\/p>\n

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[1]<\/a> Malcolm Gladwell, The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make A Big Difference, 2002, Back Bay Books<\/p>\n

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\u00a9 2012 Christine Agro<\/p>\n

Christine Agro is a clairvoyant, naturopath, Master Herbalist, conscious mom and author of 50 Ways to Live Life Consciously as well as of The Conscious Living Wisdom Cards (Special Moms\u2019 Edition). Christine is founder of The Conscious Mom\u2019s Guide , a membership site where she helps support you on your own journey of living life consciously and on your journey of being a Conscious parent. You can also join Christine on\u00a0Facebook<\/a>. To contact Christine, invite her to speak or to schedule an appointment with her please\u00a0email<\/a>\u00a0her.<\/p>\n

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