{"id":6158,"date":"2019-02-13T08:00:56","date_gmt":"2019-02-13T13:00:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/?p=6158"},"modified":"2019-02-04T12:23:10","modified_gmt":"2019-02-04T17:23:10","slug":"free-judging-others","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/2019\/02\/free-judging-others.html","title":{"rendered":"Free Yourself From Judging Others"},"content":{"rendered":"

Question:<\/strong> Judging others is my problem. I comment on their looks, job, what they think, how they feel, etc. I try to stop but it\u2019s constant. What does this mean?<\/p>\n

Answer:<\/strong> To one degree or another, it\u2019s our tendency to judge each other, especially when someone does something that pushes one of our buttons. But there are a couple of important things going on behind the scenes that we need to see…if we want to stop judging one another. First, all forms of judging are the same as blaming the one we judge for making us feel what we don\u2019t want to feel. But that person did not make us feel anything. Our task is to see that while the other may have \u201cpushed\u201d our button \u2013 it\u2019s our button! The \u201cfingers\u201d and the \u201cbuttons\u201d they push are not separate things; they don\u2019t exist without one another. In other words, \u201cfinger\u201d and \u201cbutton\u201d are secret opposites. The clearer we can see how the \u201coffending\u201d other is really just revealing the unconscious parts of us so easily offended, the sooner we will be free of the \u201cjudge\u201d that lives in us.<\/p>\n

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