{"id":5892,"date":"2018-08-06T01:00:31","date_gmt":"2018-08-06T05:00:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/?p=5892"},"modified":"2018-08-05T23:38:33","modified_gmt":"2018-08-06T03:38:33","slug":"rise-reactions-unwanted-experiences","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/2018\/08\/rise-reactions-unwanted-experiences.html","title":{"rendered":"Rise Above Your Reactions to Unwanted Experiences"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Unfortunately, most of us automatically resist the unknown. Whenever we can&#8217;t understand the nature of some unwanted situation we fall, by default, into the hands of a nature whose answer to this ache is always the same: get negative and then try to protect ourselves from anything that can&#8217;t be otherwise controlled. The rest takes place in us on automatic pilot: in the wink of an eye, we begin to see the &#8220;way out&#8221; of our situation: blame him, fix that, fight or flee. But here&#8217;s what we don&#8217;t see: in that moment, our guiding light is a dark reaction dedicated, in one way or another, to avoiding what that moment came to give us. This false nature takes what was a celestially planned event &#8212; for the purpose of our further spiritual perfection &#8212; and turns it into a dead end.<\/p>\n<p>Time and time again interior trials such as these return to help us see one thing: we can&#8217;t get past them as long as we remain who and what we have been &#8212; because who and what we have been is what we are meeting in these same moments! Another way of stating this same insight is startling: resisting what life shows us &#8212; not wanting those moments wherein we&#8217;re invited to see the truth about our present level of self &#8212; ensures they will return again! This is the interior meaning of reincarnation: the re-creation of self through resistance to the negative effects of its own manifestations. It doesn&#8217;t have to be this way. We are meant to rise above creation, not repeat our life through it in ever-descending cycles.<\/p>\n<p>There&#8217;s only one way for us to transcend the limitations of our present nature. First, we must see this one great fact: these limitations don&#8217;t belong to us any more than the clumsy body of the caterpillar belongs to the butterfly liberated from its husk. Then, we must act on this new understanding by daring to let go of any part of us that wants us to embrace its limited view of life as our own.<\/p>\n<p>True freedom is not an achievement; it is our awakened relationship and participation with the genesis of real life. We cannot create a life without limits by trying to overcome what we think stands in our way. Real limitless living is the fruit of this higher understanding: what is in our way is part of the Way. To know this is to know that all of creation has been made for you, just as surely as you have been made for everything that happens to you within it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Unfortunately, most of us automatically resist the unknown. Whenever we can&#8217;t understand the nature of some unwanted situation we fall, by default, into the hands of a nature whose answer to this ache is always the same: get negative and then try to protect ourselves from anything that can&#8217;t be otherwise controlled. The rest takes&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":232,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[599,8],"tags":[2721,3078,15,1879,490,21,3079,2126,20],"class_list":["post-5892","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-learning-the-lesson-2","category-negative-states","tag-conditioned-reactions","tag-dark-reaction","tag-freedom","tag-obstacles","tag-reincarnation","tag-resistance","tag-resisting-life","tag-transcending-limitations","tag-unwanted-moments"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v23.9 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Rise Above Your Reactions to Unwanted Experiences - Letting Go with Guy Finley<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/2018\/08\/rise-reactions-unwanted-experiences.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Rise Above Your Reactions to Unwanted Experiences - Letting Go with Guy Finley\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Unfortunately, most of us automatically resist the unknown. 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