We have all been hurt, left with a heart wounded by others who seem to go on just fine without us. In moments of such loss, our emptiness doesn\u2019t stay empty for long; we are soon filled with anger, guilt, regret, or grief. These dark thoughts and feelings usually accomplish two things at once. At their onset, they bind us to a negative certainty that we will never again love or trust, but that\u2019s not the worst of it. They also blind us so that the real purpose behind our pain goes unseen; as such, we miss the following lesson. Hidden within it is the power to transform our tears into a new kind of triumph over sorrow:It isn\u2019t love that has hurt us.<\/p>\n
Once our inner eyes are open and we can read the story between the lines secreted away in our suffering, we\u2019re able to see one spiritual wonder after another. For instance, we realize that real love can\u2019t hurt us any more than the light from a lamp can turn a room dark. We understand without taking thought that the nature of light is to reveal, not conceal. It\u2019s clear: love heals; its celestial purpose is to integrate all that it embraces and all who choose to embrace it.<\/p>\n
The birth of this new inner wisdom delivers the aspirant to a spiritual crossroads. The left-hand path leads to unrequited sorrow. The one on the right leads to revelation; from its elevated view, we see our heartaches\u2014whatever their nature\u2014as heralds of a higher order of love that bring a celestial invitation to realize a level of ourselves that cannot be diminished by any loss. The following insights bring these last important ideas into focus.<\/p>\n
This world of ours, and all that transpires here, is a school for our spiritual education. Like any institution of higher learning, it has teachers, lessons, and many levels of learning; all serve to make possible the revelation and eventual realization of a timeless love that both creates and maintains the cosmos. Now, let\u2019s take the light of this same insight and shine it on that dark moment when life seems to take from us something or someone that we love.<\/p>\n
Whenever we find ourselves hurt, left behind, or feeling undone by someone\u2019s negligent behavior toward us, life seems to be telling us that it\u2019s time to suffer. But this perception is as false as the lower level of self that falls for it. As we will see, the truth of these moments is far and away another story.<\/p>\n
In any and all unwanted moments, life asks of us a single question: are we ready to see that our pain isn\u2019t because something has changed, as it obviously had to do, but rather we suffer because of a part of us that desperately fears change? As challenging as it may be, we must acknowledge this revelation if we wish to realize the lesson it brings. Only then can we take the true action for which this new understanding calls: we must let go of any part of us that clings to its pain as proof of its love.<\/p>\n
How can we be sure that letting go can help us outgrow our suffering, let alone learn to welcome those unwanted moments that seem to deliver us into its dark hands? A quick review reveals all:<\/p>\n
Our own experiences have proven, time and time again, that the lessons we need in order to transcend our present level of understanding ride in on the back of events. Yet, in the midst of all these individual revelations lies hidden a single lesson greater than all of them combined: any truth that we come to see about ourselves is\u2014and always has been\u2014a part of our consciousness. Experience proves this divine discovery.<\/p>\n
Whenever we finally learn the lesson in some moment and see the truth of it, the feeling is more like we\u2019ve suddenly remembered something than one of having stumbled upon something formerly unknown to us. These moments of illumination are like running into a long-lost friend\u2014and, in a way, that\u2019s what they are: the remembrance of any timeless truth reunites us with our immortal Self. We are led to these moments by a loving Intelligence that waits within us to show us that we have never been alone\u2014and never will be.<\/p>\n
This means that our life lessons appear as they do, when they do, to serve a beautiful single purpose: to release us from the painful illusion that when something we love comes to an end, love itself comes to an end.<\/p>\n
What punishes us in these moments is our identification with a lower level of self that\u2019s trying to hold onto a form of love that can no longer be sustained in this world. This false nature suffers as it does for one reason only: it fears that the end of its relationship\u2014with whatever it has become identified with\u2014spells the end of its existence as well. And so it clings, denies, and decries all that passes because it believes that it\u2019s nothing without its designated \u201cother.\u201d<\/p>\n
Yes, it hurts to be left behind; there is always grief when a loved one passes on, as surely as we feel anger and sorrow upon learning that someone near and dear has betrayed or lied to us. This is why if we hope to realize the timeless love that lives within us, we must not only perfect the following understanding but also practice its truth in any moment where love seems lost: In the worlds above us\u2014that dwell within us\u2014we are the other.<\/p>\n
The indwelling love of the Divine never dies; it only assumes new ways to teach us this truth so that we may share in its ceaseless rebirth within us.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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