{"id":5385,"date":"2017-06-07T12:00:43","date_gmt":"2017-06-07T16:00:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/?p=5385"},"modified":"2017-06-04T15:54:36","modified_gmt":"2017-06-04T19:54:36","slug":"truth-anger-hatred","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/2017\/06\/truth-anger-hatred.html","title":{"rendered":"The Truth About Anger and Hatred"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>To be angry and hateful is to suffer. It doesn\u2019t help anyone to get angry. Anger hurts whoever is angry. It burns. Anger ruins relationships, causes heartache and regret, and devastates health. And yet, in spite of all of these facts, when we are angry it feels right. Somehow, in some unseen way, anger proves to whoever is experiencing its heated feelings that he or she is right even though, in the eyes of reality, nothing could be further from the truth.<\/p>\n<p>How can something so wrong seem so right? Feelings of anger and hatred <em>feel<\/em> like they\u2019re in your best interest because, at the time of their intrusion into your life, they temporarily fill you with a powerful false sense of self born out of fierce but lying feelings that can only exist without your conscious consent or awareness of it being there. This negative-self\u2019s interests are not in <em>your<\/em> best interest. This conjured-up temporary identity is nothing but a self-of-suffering.<\/p>\n<p>One day you will wonder how you were ever tricked into feeling bad about anything or anyone. The truth wants you to know that it is <em>never<\/em> in your best interest to suffer, no matter how inwardly convincing it may feel to you that you will be betraying yourself or someone else if you don\u2019t. The only way that any suffering feeling can prove to you that you need it is to hypnotize you with a flood of itself. Step back from yourself. Learn instead to listen to the quiet stream of higher insight that runs softly through your true nature. It sees through sorrow and resentment. Let it show you that suffering proves nothing. Ask yourself, \u201cIf I am doing what I want to do, then how come it hurts <em>me<\/em> to do it?\u201d The true spiritual life is about a human being realizing that his life is not to be used by antagonistic thoughts and feelings.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>To be angry and hateful is to suffer. It doesn\u2019t help anyone to get angry. Anger hurts whoever is angry. It burns. Anger ruins relationships, causes heartache and regret, and devastates health. And yet, in spite of all of these facts, when we are angry it feels right. Somehow, in some unseen way, anger proves&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":232,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[517,682],"tags":[2786,116,340,699,152,76,79,2788,2787],"class_list":["post-5385","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-anger-frustration","category-hatred-resentment","tag-animosity","tag-blame","tag-frustration","tag-hurt","tag-regret","tag-relationships","tag-resentment","tag-self-destructive-feelings","tag-self-suffering"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v23.9 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>The Truth About Anger and Hatred - Letting Go with Guy Finley<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/2017\/06\/truth-anger-hatred.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"The Truth About Anger and Hatred - Letting Go with Guy Finley\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"To be angry and hateful is to suffer. 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