{"id":5233,"date":"2017-03-01T12:00:56","date_gmt":"2017-03-01T17:00:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/?p=5233"},"modified":"2017-02-25T11:05:17","modified_gmt":"2017-02-25T16:05:17","slug":"practice-pause-spiritually-strengthens","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/2017\/03\/practice-pause-spiritually-strengthens.html","title":{"rendered":"Practice the Pause that Spiritually Strengthens"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>The next time you feel yourself starting to become frustrated, angry or scared, do your best to confirm this vital insight: Negative emotions cannot exist without having something to blame for their punishing presence.<\/p>\n<p>The clearer for yourself you can make this spiritual fact &#8212; about the dualistic nature of spiritual weakness &#8212; the better prepared you&#8217;ll be to take your next step toward higher spiritual strength. Your discovery leads you to this totally new action. Whatever it takes, don&#8217;t express that surfacing irritation by naming or blaming anything outside of you as being its cause.<\/p>\n<p>Even if you have to remove yourself physically from the developing situation, then do it. Find some way to temporarily isolate yourself &#8212; along with your smoldering emotional state. Please note: Isolate yourself along with your agitation.<\/p>\n<p>If it helps to make what appears to be a bitter pill taste better, think of these inner-trials as the pause that spiritually strengthens, for a new strength is exactly what you&#8217;ll win for yourself each time you elect to work with this step.<\/p>\n<p>Voluntarily isolating yourself along with your irritated thoughts and feelings doesn&#8217;t mean cutting them off; nor does it mean that you should pretend that you&#8217;re not on fire. Suppression of these weak inner states is just the opposite of angrily expressing them, and every bit as harmful. Don&#8217;t express &#8212; or suppress &#8212; any negative state. Besides, either one of these opposite approaches always produces the same results; nothing changes except for what&#8217;s being blamed. Choosing to not blame lifts you above both of these losing choices.<\/p>\n<p>Your conscious non-action turns you into the objective witness of what are your own superheated emotions. And from the safety of this higher awareness you see about yourself what you couldn&#8217;t see before because of all the inner fire and smoke. Your discoveries empower you to cancel the real cause of your inner combustibility. Not only is your self-command restored, but it&#8217;s heightened. Each discovery of an unseen weakness heralds the coming of a greater spiritual strength.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The next time you feel yourself starting to become frustrated, angry or scared, do your best to confirm this vital insight: Negative emotions cannot exist without having something to blame for their punishing presence. 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