{"id":5004,"date":"2016-09-28T12:00:45","date_gmt":"2016-09-28T16:00:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/?p=5004"},"modified":"2016-09-25T16:23:27","modified_gmt":"2016-09-25T20:23:27","slug":"stop-going-painful-confusion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/2016\/09\/stop-going-painful-confusion.html","title":{"rendered":"How to Stop Going Into Painful Confusion"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>KEY LESSON:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Going into painful confusion over the appearance of any problem is really the avoidance of realizing some temporary limitation in one&#8217;s understanding of oneself\u2026 and nothing else.<\/p>\n<p><strong>A New Understanding About Confusing Feelings<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Question:<\/strong> Why do so many of your lessons leave me feeling so confused?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Answer:<\/strong> Confusion can only appear when we think &#8220;we know&#8221; and then something comes along and shows us we don&#8217;t\u2026 and so confusion is always a lie (of a sort).<\/p>\n<p>The problem isn&#8217;t that you don&#8217;t understand (whatever). How can there be pain in what you don&#8217;t know? It&#8217;s impossible.<\/p>\n<p>The problem is you don&#8217;t want to bear the conscious pain of seeing that you don&#8217;t know (what you think you do). This experience persists until we stop resisting and start receiving truth as it&#8217;s revealed (about ourselves).<\/p>\n<p>Let go\u2026 choose being watchful over the pain of being willful, and you will see the confusion start to fade.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>KEY LESSON: Going into painful confusion over the appearance of any problem is really the avoidance of realizing some temporary limitation in one&#8217;s understanding of oneself\u2026 and nothing else. A New Understanding About Confusing Feelings Question: Why do so many of your lessons leave me feeling so confused? 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