{"id":4968,"date":"2016-09-09T12:00:46","date_gmt":"2016-09-09T16:00:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/?p=4968"},"modified":"2016-09-05T14:20:20","modified_gmt":"2016-09-05T18:20:20","slug":"refuse-unkindness-home-heart","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/2016\/09\/refuse-unkindness-home-heart.html","title":{"rendered":"Refuse Unkindness a Home in Your Heart"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Why does it seem so hard to be kind to those who may have hurt us, when kindness itself is a gentle master? We must realize in our moment of need that the only thing being &#8220;hard&#8221; on us is an unseen indwelling unkindness, and then refuse it a home in our heart.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/?attachment_id=4971\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-4971\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-4971 size-medium\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/92\/2016\/09\/qp-instead-of-asking-yourself-TWESTRA-no-url-300x281.jpg\" alt=\"Instead of asking yourself why someone else acts this or that way, learn to ask: What's inside of me that wants to hurt itself, over how anyone else acts?\" width=\"300\" height=\"281\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Why does it seem so hard to be kind to those who may have hurt us, when kindness itself is a gentle master? We must realize in our moment of need that the only thing being &#8220;hard&#8221; on us is an unseen indwelling unkindness, and then refuse it a home in our heart.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":232,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[73,511],"tags":[2570,151,2569,389,179,44,2568],"class_list":["post-4968","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-love-relationships","category-uplifting-quote-key-lesson","tag-being-hard-on-oneself","tag-betrayal","tag-feeling-betrayed","tag-feeling-hurt","tag-forgiveness","tag-letting-go-2","tag-unkindness"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v23.9 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Refuse Unkindness a Home in Your Heart - Letting Go with Guy Finley<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/2016\/09\/refuse-unkindness-home-heart.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Refuse Unkindness a Home in Your Heart - Letting Go with Guy Finley\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Why does it seem so hard to be kind to those who may have hurt us, when kindness itself is a gentle master? 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