{"id":4666,"date":"2016-01-12T12:00:19","date_gmt":"2016-01-12T17:00:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/?p=4666"},"modified":"2016-01-09T23:46:37","modified_gmt":"2016-01-10T04:46:37","slug":"stop-complaining-and-start-changing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/2016\/01\/stop-complaining-and-start-changing.html","title":{"rendered":"Stop Complaining and Start Changing"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Two construction workers, employed on the same high-rise job for many months now, are seated on a steel beam overlooking the city. It\u2019s time for lunch and a little relaxation from the stress of the day. But every day since they first started taking their meal together, one of the men, Dave, has never failed to voice some complaint about his sandwich, saying things like \u201cOh no, not meatloaf again\u201d or \u201cDang, this bread is hard as a rock!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>One afternoon, as Dave starts up his usual negative review of his sandwich, slamming one thing or another about its contents or how it\u2019s been \u201cthrown together,\u201d his coworker, Ben, just doesn\u2019t want to hear it anymore. And so, collecting himself carefully so as not to tread on Dave\u2019s toes, he speaks up.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cLook, Dave\u2014granted, I don\u2019t know much about your life at home, and I don\u2019t mean to stick my nose where it doesn\u2019t belong\u2014but why not ask your wife to make you something different? I\u2019m sure she wouldn\u2019t mind.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNo,\u201d says Dave, \u201cit\u2019s not my wife\u2019s fault. Tammy\u2019s the greatest\u2014a saint, really. She works the late-night shift at the hospital as a nurse.\u201d And then, after taking a hard look at the sandwich in his hand, he finishes his thought. \u201cAs a rule, she hardly ever gets back home before I leave for work.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHmmm,\u201d says Ben, pausing to think things through for a moment. \u201cThen I guess I don\u2019t understand\u2009\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhat\u2019s that?\u201d asks Dave.<\/p>\n<p>Ben continues: \u201cWell, who makes your sandwich for you each morning?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>With that, Dave looks him straight in the eye, as if the answer is too obvious to miss. \u201cWho do you think makes it? I do!\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Two construction workers, employed on the same high-rise job for many months now, are seated on a steel beam overlooking the city. It\u2019s time for lunch and a little relaxation from the stress of the day. 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