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Once this process &#8212; of how we are complicit in creating the moments over which we complain&#8211;is seen for what it is&#8230;it&#8217;s not that &#8220;unwanted moments&#8221; go away, but rather we stop identifying with the parts of us that see them as so.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The thing that is unwanted in any moment is not the event we blame for our pain. The real source of our suffering is mechanically identifying with a negative reaction, and then unconsciously resisting our own dark state. 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