{"id":3924,"date":"2015-03-04T12:00:40","date_gmt":"2015-03-04T17:00:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/?p=3924"},"modified":"2015-03-01T23:04:47","modified_gmt":"2015-03-02T04:04:47","slug":"stop-perpetuating-your-pain","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/2015\/03\/stop-perpetuating-your-pain.html","title":{"rendered":"Stop Perpetuating Your Pain"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>The next time you experience any kind of pain, you can do something that will turn it into a new and different experience. Each time you catch a pain, admit that you don\u2019t understand it. You thought you did. You believed it was caused by another person or some event that thwarted you. As a result of those beliefs you did many things to get rid of the pain, but it always came back. So now, admit that your beliefs may be all wrong, and simply say, \u201cI don\u2019t understand the pain.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>This amazing method works by changing our fundamental relationship with both the pain and the Truth that can set us free from it. It means that we see that we\u2019ve fought one losing battle after another with the pain, none of which has done anything to resolve it. We know our failure was due to our complete misunderstanding about the pain. So now we will do nothing about it. In essence, by turning our pain over to the Truth, we\u2019re asking the Truth to show us the facts about our pain, which is the same as inviting Reality to rid us of it. And it will.<\/p>\n<p>What a relief. Now we don\u2019t have to pretend anymore that we\u2019re wise or strong. Now we\u2019ve turned the pain over to the right department and it can be handled by something other than our old, pain-based solutions. What an amazing revelation this is. It puts us in the right relationship with Truth. When we tried to handle everything on our own, everything we did perpetuated the pain. All we succeeded in doing was fueling its life with our own. Now we don\u2019t want to do that anymore, but we know that our old mind doesn\u2019t know any other way to respond to the challenges we meet each day. So we stop making the familiar response and just go silent. We turn it all over to Truth.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The next time you experience any kind of pain, you can do something that will turn it into a new and different experience. Each time you catch a pain, admit that you don\u2019t understand it. You thought you did. You believed it was caused by another person or some event that thwarted you. 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