Have you ever seen in a relationship that you have with someone that the alignment is starting to go off (so to speak) and you can see the car starting to drift? So, you grab the steering wheel — meaning you grab hold of that person to try to manipulate their behavior — because you know if the car keeps drifting — meaning if they keep doing what they\u2019re doing — you know the car is going to crash! Then you start to pressure the person in subtle ways in order to make sure they go down the road that you think leads to the end you have in mind\u2026 and how do you like people with their hands on your wheel? Isn\u2019t it true that the more a person tries to determine what you should do to fulfill their idea of love, the less love you feel for them? We don\u2019t see it happening. For one thing, we\u2019re captives of the fear of the crash.<\/p>\n
Gradually, a person becomes so identified with what they want, that in the process of being identified with it, they start to fear that the end in mind won\u2019t come to pass as has been imagined, and the end not coming to pass means the passing of themselves. \u201cI\u2019ll lose myself if I lose you.\u201d The moment \u201cwhat has to happen\u201d becomes set in one\u2019s mind, then everything that produces the possibility of a viable and whole relationship is choked off.<\/p>\n
It is in the recognition of this identification that you begin to not be so consumed with yourself. If in any given moment, for instance when someone is speaking or you\u2019re with friends, it were possible for you to be experiencing an endless world, wouldn\u2019t you think that would be preferential to a world you\u2019re always trying to keep from ending?<\/p>\n
When you look out a window, or you go outside at night, your eyes can only go so far. We\u2019re not conscious of the fact that our vision has an ending point, because we\u2019re caught up by the objects in it, meaning we\u2019re caught up with our consideration of what we see, not the fact that our vision has a limitation to it. Our eyes have an end to what they can see. Love is seeing the beginning and the ending at once and realizing that one is a part of the beginning and the ending all at once, and all at once it is taking place inside of a human being.<\/p>\n
We are created by Love. Inside of us is Love. Love is what realizes Love. Love is the only thing that can know Love. Love has no end in mind except for the fulfillment of itself. Therefore, it isn\u2019t trying to make anything happen. It isn\u2019t trying to control someone so that one can keep their love in place.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Have you ever seen in a relationship that you have with someone that the alignment is starting to go off (so to speak) and you can see the car starting to drift? So, you grab the steering wheel — meaning you grab hold of that person to try to manipulate their behavior — because you…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":232,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1,73],"tags":[431,108,2051,288,1624,2050,2014,465],"class_list":["post-3634","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-enlightenment-self-realization","category-love-relationships","tag-demands","tag-desire","tag-endless-love","tag-identification","tag-real-love","tag-sabotaging-relationship","tag-self-centeredness","tag-true-love"],"yoast_head":"\n