{"id":3479,"date":"2014-07-15T12:00:30","date_gmt":"2014-07-15T16:00:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/?p=3479"},"modified":"2014-07-12T14:58:26","modified_gmt":"2014-07-12T18:58:26","slug":"making-amends-for-past-wrongs","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/2014\/07\/making-amends-for-past-wrongs.html","title":{"rendered":"Making Amends for Past Wrongs"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Question:<\/strong> I\u2019ve seen that I\u2019ve said and done some terrible things to people in my life. How do I get through this guilt and shame? Is there a right way to make amends to the people I\u2019ve wronged?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Answer:<\/strong> Oh yes, there is. Change yourself. In the long run, there is no other way that we can either be forgiven for who and what we have been, nor is there any other way to truly forgive others. Start by daring to stay awake to these recurring bouts with shame and, instead of identifying with the negative sensation that is merely a rerun of your old nature, drop it like a hot rock. You\u2019ll have to work at this, but real results will follow.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Question: I\u2019ve seen that I\u2019ve said and done some terrible things to people in my life. How do I get through this guilt and shame? Is there a right way to make amends to the people I\u2019ve wronged? Answer: Oh yes, there is. Change yourself. 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