{"id":3413,"date":"2014-06-13T12:00:41","date_gmt":"2014-06-13T16:00:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/?p=3413"},"modified":"2014-06-10T01:00:53","modified_gmt":"2014-06-10T05:00:53","slug":"how-to-end-the-cycle-of-hurting-and-being-hurt-conclusion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/2014\/06\/how-to-end-the-cycle-of-hurting-and-being-hurt-conclusion.html","title":{"rendered":"How to End the Cycle of Hurting and Being Hurt  (Conclusion)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Each time we will consciously refuse to strike back in anger or act out some aggression toward the one who hurts us, we sow the seed of a new order of a conscious life. Now instead of being used by dark forces that grow at the expense of our soul\u2019s development, it is we who use our endless differences with others to grow endlessly. And at the same time that we learn to rise above the pain of our own negative reactions, we create the possibility and opportunity for others around us to do the same.<\/p>\n<p>Each time we will choose not to respond to someone\u2019s mental or emotional blow with a blow of our own, that person is left no choice but to see that the only antagonist he has is his own pain. And just as this person\u2019s awakening to the continual cause of his unconscious aching is the beginning of the end of it, so too is this true for us. Our newly awakened understanding reveals that there is nothing for us to do with our pain but to let it be nothing to us. And with each such spiritual step that we will dare to take outside the circle of suffering, so do we make a way for everyone else\u2026 because at last the circle has been broken.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Each time we will consciously refuse to strike back in anger or act out some aggression toward the one who hurts us, we sow the seed of a new order of a conscious life. 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