{"id":3403,"date":"2014-06-10T12:00:10","date_gmt":"2014-06-10T16:00:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/?p=3403"},"modified":"2014-06-09T09:44:44","modified_gmt":"2014-06-09T13:44:44","slug":"how-to-end-the-cycle-of-hurting-and-being-hurt-part-1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/2014\/06\/how-to-end-the-cycle-of-hurting-and-being-hurt-part-1.html","title":{"rendered":"How to End the Cycle of Hurting and Being Hurt (Part 1)"},"content":{"rendered":"

When someone acts thoughtlessly towards us, it is a similar thoughtlessness in us that responds. In other words, our own hostile reactions take no thought for anything outside of what they call into account for their suddenly heated existence — so that the only awareness we possess in these times is that low level of cognizance that possesses us, making us \u201centitled\u201d to attack back! And with our own aching heart or pounding thoughts providing the fuel, we lash out! After all, it is our \u201cright\u201d to set the record straight.<\/p>\n

But in these moments, if we could learn to step back from ourselves — to see and to be aware of ourselves as being but a cog in this ever-turning wheel of hurting and being hurt — there would follow a great and liberating self-revelation. We would see, clearly, that before we rise up and attempt to hurt someone who has hurt us, it is we who hold this hurt first. And if we realize the dynamic exposed here — how one hurt always gives rise to another one\u00a0 -\u2013 then we should also be able to see that each of us is always the first to hold this unwanted pain.<\/p>\n

If we see the truth of the unconscious cycle, then we are ready for the next truth we will need to escape this circle of suffering\u2026 \u00a0[to be continued]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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