{"id":24,"date":"2010-07-22T06:54:39","date_gmt":"2010-07-22T06:54:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lettinggo\/2010\/07\/for-love-to-last.html"},"modified":"2010-07-22T06:54:39","modified_gmt":"2010-07-22T06:54:39","slug":"for-love-to-last","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/2010\/07\/for-love-to-last.html","title":{"rendered":"For Love to Last&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<div>Don&#8217;t try to please each other, for each of you has constantly changing pleasures.&nbsp;<\/div>\n<div>Instead, strive to please love, and in this you will please what is capable of being loved in each other. This understanding alone nourishes your love, and love, in turn will nourish your life together.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<div>Teach and help each other to be independent. Wrongful dependency on one another breeds fear and cruelty. Instead, learn to depend on love, for love breeds love . . . and real love is always independent and kind.&nbsp;<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Don&#8217;t try to change each other, either openly or subtly. This creates resentment. Instead, let the other find his or her way. This doesn&#8217;t mean to condone wrongness. It means don&#8217;t condemn one another for a weakness. Love never pounces.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Don&#8217;t try to please each other, for each of you has constantly changing pleasures.&nbsp; Instead, strive to please love, and in this you will please what is capable of being loved in each other. 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