A big part of our inner work in all of our relationships involves remembering this key idea: whenever we are not present and properly attentive to ourselves, we may be sure the false self is busy attending to something we\u2019ll be paying for in the days ahead. Disconcerting, yes; but there\u2019s no denying it: there are unconscious parts of us that feel good about getting us to do wrong!<\/p>\n
Whenever we allow angry parts of us to cast blame on others for the conditions we find ourselves in, we enable the false self to keep dreaming that if it weren\u2019t for others doing us wrong we would never feel so angry, defeated, or depressed.<\/p>\n
The truth is there are unconscious parts of us that readily find fault with others in a misguided effort to remain infallible in our own eyes. Each time we blame someone else, we agree to remain asleep in this misery-making mistaken identity. Saying \u201cno\u201d to this nature is saying goodbye to a host of imagined enemies this false self needs to remain itself, as well as to a war that can never be won.<\/p>\n
We have to do a special kind of inner work if we wish to catch and cancel self-harmful behavior. It\u2019s not enough to just talk about achieving a good, contented life. Anyone can talk about that, and most do. Few will really do the interior work it takes to be free, which is why we must be different.<\/p>\n
We must learn to put the light of Truth before all things. No such effort ever goes unrewarded. Little by little the living Light reveals within us a new and higher order of strength that has no problem saying \u201cno\u201d to those unconscious parts of us that care for nothing and no one, not even themselves! This new \u201cno\u201d then becomes a \u201cyes\u201d to self-wholeness — the secret source of all healthy, happy, and unlimited relationships.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
A big part of our inner work in all of our relationships involves remembering this key idea: whenever we are not present and properly attentive to ourselves, we may be sure the false self is busy attending to something we\u2019ll be paying for in the days ahead. Disconcerting, yes; but there\u2019s no denying it: there…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":232,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4,2],"tags":[45,116,690,179,1062,1499,76,94],"class_list":["post-2266","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-guilt-regret","category-letting-go","tag-anger","tag-blame","tag-finding-fault","tag-forgiveness","tag-freedom-from-the-past","tag-prayer-for-forgiveness","tag-relationships","tag-strength"],"yoast_head":"\n