Have you ever tried to make a change and then heard this voice in your head? \u201cWhy does it have to hurt?\u201d Maybe some form of an addiction \u2013 drugs, alcohol, food \u2013 has begun to compromise not only your sanity and health but your relationships. Maybe you know that you are not doing the right thing with people, and you want to change, but it hurts too much. Are you involved with somebody and you know that you shouldn\u2019t be involved with him or her? And even though you know you shouldn\u2019t be involved, the thought of not being involved with them hurts?<\/p>\n
Every time we reach a moment in life where it is necessary for us to recognize and then act upon change, to have some discipline\u2026 we think: \u201cWhy does it have to hurt?\u201d Our attention shouldn\u2019t be on the thought that says, \u201cWhy does it have to hurt?\u201d Where our attention should be is on the fact that: \u201cYou know what? Being this way is hurting me!\u201d<\/p>\n
And when we honestly look at the evidence before us — that we haven\u2019t changed because it\u2019s just too painful for us — we can see that we have little by little let our life go\u2026 we\u2019ve let go of the right ideals, the right hopes, the right feelings that we had when we were children. We realize we should be able to talk to anybody about anything. We should be able to get any kind of news, and take it with equanimity. We should be able to walk through storm or sunshine with the same bright nature\u2026 and yet we know we don\u2019t.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s critical that instead of becoming someone who is learning to cope with the nature that\u2019s decided it\u2019s impossible to have that kind of life, we understand that if we want to become a different kind of human being, we are going to have to pay. How? We have to change.<\/p>\n
Self-change hurts. Self-change is not easy. Self-change requires a new kind of suffering. But the beautiful thing about the change we\u2019re talking about — and the way that it\u2019s made possible — begins with understanding new truths… facts that most of us (and the world around us) do not want us to know, but that begin right in our own heart with us seeing evidentially the truth of our own life, by us having altogether new ways with which to look at ourselves that aren\u2019t conditioned by the fear of seeing what we see.<\/p>\n
We\u2019re so afraid of looking at ourselves. We\u2019re so afraid of seeing our own weaknesses. In this world today, we\u2019re not supposed to have any weaknesses\u2026 but fear of a weakness is the biggest weakness there is.<\/p>\n
Real change begins with the willingness to see and understand what is keeping us from change.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Have you ever tried to make a change and then heard this voice in your head? \u201cWhy does it have to hurt?\u201d Maybe some form of an addiction \u2013 drugs, alcohol, food \u2013 has begun to compromise not only your sanity and health but your relationships. Maybe you know that you are not doing the…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":232,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[672,1],"tags":[729,496,1488,618,254,583,347,76,201],"class_list":["post-2187","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-changetransformation","category-enlightenment-self-realization","tag-addiction","tag-diet","tag-discipline","tag-fearless-living","tag-health","tag-mental-health","tag-new-years-resolutions","tag-relationships","tag-weakness"],"yoast_head":"\n