{"id":2034,"date":"2012-11-14T03:00:08","date_gmt":"2012-11-14T08:00:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lettinggo\/?p=2034"},"modified":"2012-11-04T21:25:19","modified_gmt":"2012-11-05T02:25:19","slug":"relax-with-others-by-releasing-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/2012\/11\/relax-with-others-by-releasing-yourself.html","title":{"rendered":"Relax With Others By Releasing Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>If you ever really want to know why there&#8217;s a fairly consistent amount of stress (in you) in the midst of your conversation with others, just work during the time in question to be more interested in discovering the truth of yourself (quietly watching yourself) than you are in trying to prove yourself as being somehow special or otherwise infallible.<\/p>\n<p>In all of us there dwells a certain &#8220;dark&#8221; character whose chief feature is to ensure that no one ever doubts its perfection. 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