{"id":1990,"date":"2012-10-31T03:00:06","date_gmt":"2012-10-31T07:00:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lettinggo\/?p=1990"},"modified":"2012-10-28T20:03:27","modified_gmt":"2012-10-29T00:03:27","slug":"erase-those-fearful-feelings","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/2012\/10\/erase-those-fearful-feelings.html","title":{"rendered":"Erase Those Fearful Feelings"},"content":{"rendered":"

Special Insight:<\/strong><\/p>\n

<\/strong>There is no such thing as a shaky situation, so any time you start to tremble, don\u2019t look around you for the fault: Look inward. It\u2019s the inner-ground you\u2019re standing on that isn\u2019t solid.<\/p>\n

Exercise and Instruction:<\/strong><\/p>\n

That seemingly scary condition, whatever it may be, is not the problem. It\u2019s your reaction that has you shaking. And that\u2019s why, if you\u2019ll become conscious of any fearful condition instead of becoming afraid of it, you\u2019ll change forever your relationship with fear. It\u2019s true.<\/p>\n

Being conscious of your fear empowers you to interact with it in an entirely new way, because this new inner relationship gives you the power to be awake to its scary influences, instead of being their unconscious slave. And as each day you discover something new about the shaky nature of your own fearful reactions, they lose their power over you. Why? You see them for what they have always been: unintelligent mechanical forces.<\/p>\n

To be consciously afraid means that you know you are frightened, but at the same time, to know that these very fears, as real as they may seem, are not you.<\/p>\n

Fear is really nothing other than a self-limiting reaction that we\u2019ve always mistaken for a shield of self protection. It\u2019s time to let it go, which you can do anytime you want. Here\u2019s how: Just dare to proceed, even while being afraid.<\/p>\n

Employing this simple but higher instruction, to proceed even while being afraid, will not only show you the strange faces of all those habitual reactions that have had you on the run, but it will also empower you to start seeing through them. And, as you\u2019ll gratefully discover, each of your new insights into their actual nature removes some of their power over you. Better yet, their loss is your gain! Here now is the exercise that will help you face those fearful feelings and erase them from your life once and for all.<\/p>\n

Do you know someone whom you would rather run from than run into? Most of us do! Nevertheless, starting right Now, resolve never again to avoid any person who scares you. In fact, whether at home or work, go ahead and walk right up to that critical man or aggressive woman and say exactly what you want, instead of letting the fear tell you to do what it wants. Have no ideas at all about the way things should or shouldn\u2019t go. Of course, this exercise is not an excuse to be cruel, or rude.<\/p>\n

Remember, your aim in working with this exercise in self liberation is not to win an ego victory, but rather, to watch and learn something new about yourself. Drop any other misplaced self-conscious concerns. Let that person see you shake, if that\u2019s what starts to happen. What do you care? It\u2019s only temporary. Besides, that unpleasant person before you can\u2019t know it, but you\u2019re shaking yourself awake!<\/p>\n

Stand your inner ground even if it feels as though you might fall through the floor. Allow your reactions to roll by you \u2014 instead of letting them carry you away as they\u2019ve always done in the past.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ll fight for yourself in this new way, it won\u2019t be the floor beneath you that you feel open. It will be your inner eyes! And what they see is that this flood \u2014 of what were once unconscious reactions \u2014 has its own life story; a shaky story that up until now you\u2019d taken as your own. But it\u2019s not. You see these fears do not belong to you, and that they never have. Everything about your life changes in this one moment. Here\u2019s what has been revealed to you.<\/p>\n

You have never been afraid of another person. The only thing you\u2019ve ever been frightened by is your own thoughts about that person. Yes, you did feel fear, but it wasn\u2019t yours. And it wasn\u2019t towards someone stronger than you. The fear you always felt was in what you thought he or she was thinking about you. Amazing isn\u2019t it? You have been afraid of your own thoughts.<\/p>\n

Facing your fearful feelings brings them to an end because, if you\u2019ll proceed while being afraid, you will see all that\u2019s been scaring you . . . is you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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