{"id":1375,"date":"2012-03-14T03:00:40","date_gmt":"2012-03-14T07:00:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lettinggo\/?p=1375"},"modified":"2012-03-11T20:24:18","modified_gmt":"2012-03-12T00:24:18","slug":"break-the-chain-of-unhappy-endings","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/2012\/03\/break-the-chain-of-unhappy-endings.html","title":{"rendered":"Break the Chain of Unhappy Endings"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>The &#8220;promise&#8221; of any pleasure to come is really nothing more or less than the memory of a pleasing sensation imagined as just being ahead of you; in truth, it is projected there &#8212; onto the screen of the mind &#8212; from somewhere out of your past. The power of these wants, and the passion of their pursuit, is all due to the presence of a kind of psychological &#8220;special effect&#8221; &#8212; a highly attractive state that feels real because of the very desirable sensations that always attend its appearance.<\/p>\n<p>If you wish to see through this trick of the false self, and save yourself a considerable amount of useless suffering, here&#8217;s a new action to take each time you catch yourself being drawn to jump down the rabbit hole of some familiar desire:<\/p>\n<p>Before you &#8220;buy&#8221; the ticket (to the promised Wonderland)&#8230; do the best you can to remember how that exact same &#8220;sensational&#8221; mental movie ended last time. Consciously recall, as vividly as you can, the real cost of sitting through a rerun that you&#8217;ve not only seen a hundred times, but one that almost never has a happy ending!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The &#8220;promise&#8221; of any pleasure to come is really nothing more or less than the memory of a pleasing sensation imagined as just being ahead of you; in truth, it is projected there &#8212; onto the screen of the mind &#8212; from somewhere out of your past. The power of these wants, and the passion&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":232,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1,73],"tags":[1074,231,1073,262,1072],"class_list":["post-1375","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-enlightenment-self-realization","category-love-relationships","tag-cost-of-cheating","tag-desires","tag-promise-of-pleasure","tag-temptation","tag-unhappy-endings"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v23.9 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Break the Chain of Unhappy Endings  - Letting Go with Guy Finley<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/2012\/03\/break-the-chain-of-unhappy-endings.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Break the Chain of Unhappy Endings  - Letting Go with Guy Finley\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"The &#8220;promise&#8221; of any pleasure to come is really nothing more or less than the memory of a pleasing sensation imagined as just being ahead of you; in truth, it is projected there &#8212; onto the screen of the mind &#8212; from somewhere out of your past. 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