{"id":1372,"date":"2012-03-13T03:00:40","date_gmt":"2012-03-13T07:00:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lettinggo\/?p=1372"},"modified":"2012-03-11T20:19:55","modified_gmt":"2012-03-12T00:19:55","slug":"loyalty-in-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/2012\/03\/loyalty-in-relationships.html","title":{"rendered":"Loyalty in Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Question: <\/strong>Could you please share your insights on trusting your partner with regards to attempting to have a meaningful relationship? It seems that almost nobody can be loyal, and they always end up cheating or thinking the grass is greener on the other side. This could be a matter of life and death these days rather than just hurtful feelings of jealousy. Is it even possible to be truly satisfied and not have overwhelming curiosities?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Answer:<\/strong> You&#8217;ve asked two questions that perhaps I can answer with one idea. First, part of the &#8220;problem&#8221; of being asleep to oneself includes the fact that such a person has no inkling that he or she is not one integrated being, but is actually a composite of various desires and the sense of self that is born from these forces in his or her soul. No one who is many can act as one. To expect someone to be loyal, to have integrity, to be true, when such a person is almost by law divided into more natures than Seth himself, is to ask for sorrow. So, the first thing that we must do if we wish to cease feeling ourselves a victim is to begin the process of integrating ourselves. Once we realize the truth of our own condition, it is impossible to be deceived by anyone who remains in a state similar to the sleep life we have now escaped. This is a form of spiritual safety. But more important than that sense of security that comes from the presence of a Living Light within us is that for this same Light within us, we are liberated from the base longing of hoping to complete ourselves by someone or something exterior to ourselves. This is contentment that is not based in the opposites, but is a natural radiation of one now living in an undivided Reality.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Question: Could you please share your insights on trusting your partner with regards to attempting to have a meaningful relationship? It seems that almost nobody can be loyal, and they always end up cheating or thinking the grass is greener on the other side. 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