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Such anguish belongs to, and is created by, those darkly combustible parts of us into which we so readily fall and become inflamed whenever certain self-supports are unexpectedly pulled out from beneath us.<\/p>\n<p align=\"center\">***<\/p>\n<p>Any &#8220;I&#8221; that hates relates not to the person it holds responsible for this rage, but this &#8220;I&#8221; sits in secret relationship with ruinous negative states that have neither place nor power in this world without drawing some sleeping soul into an unconscious conspiracy called &#8220;blame.&#8221;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The pain we feel over being betrayed is not the fault of the one who has fractured our trust. 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