{"id":1117,"date":"2011-12-09T03:00:10","date_gmt":"2011-12-09T08:00:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lettinggo\/?p=1117"},"modified":"2011-12-03T20:27:31","modified_gmt":"2011-12-04T01:27:31","slug":"ground-yourself-in-the-present-moment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lettinggo\/2011\/12\/ground-yourself-in-the-present-moment.html","title":{"rendered":"Ground Yourself in the Present Moment"},"content":{"rendered":"

Question:\u00a0<\/strong>Painful experiences from my past have a way of coming to the surface and wrecking me all over again. How do I stop engaging myself with the past, and how do I leave this pain behind me once and for all?<\/p>\n

Answer:\u00a0<\/strong>Unconscious conflicts, in dialogue form, play themselves out in our mind by painfully reenacting various scenes from our past; moments gone by in which we either know, or sense, we were compromised by our own weakness. If these dark inner dialogues were left to themselves as they popped into our mind, they\u2019d be as powerless to disturb us as an echo is to change its own sound. Where we get into trouble is when we\u2019re unknowingly drawn into these scenes out of our past and find ourselves interacting with a cast of ghost players! The ensuing mental dialogue is always a desperate but futile attempt to change what has already been said and done so that maybe this time around we can come out a winner.<\/p>\n

Try this step for the winning solution\u2026 if you sat down on a metal bench and suddenly realized the midday sun had heated it way beyond the comfort zone, you\u2019d stand up as quickly as you could. The same intelligence behind this instinctive physical reaction can help you release and drop all dark inner dialogues that cause you to hold on to some past hurt or hatred.<\/p>\n

Each time you catch yourself in a dark inner dialogue, of any kind, use your awareness of the conflict it\u2019s creating within you as a springboard to help you leap out of those scary scenes from your past into the safety of the present moment. Then, instead of giving yourself back over to those inner voices of conflict that are still trying to converse with you, remain aware of yourself in the present moment, and of their continuing beckoning presence.<\/p>\n

No matter how many times you hear in your mind those fighting words that have always prompted you to jump into that dark dialogue, refuse to join in. Ground yourself in your awareness of the present moment. When you\u2019re no longer a captive of your own past, you can recognize its ghost voices as the source of psychic intrusion they really are. Learn to ask for a happy, new life by refusing to relive what\u2019s been tearing at you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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