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A 9 year old boy asks why anger and fear always deny that they are controlling us. Guy explains that pain only offers us limited solutions – telling us who we are and what we can do, and taking from […]

One thing that makes negative states so difficult to drop is the illusion they create within us that no choice exists for us other than to cave in to their punishing presence. But, in truth, it is not we who […]

Have you ever been drawn into a fight with a loved one where – by the time you got knee-deep into who’s “right” and who’s “wrong” – maybe over the most trivial of matters – it felt as if, somehow, […]

Unfortunately, most of us automatically resist the unknown. Whenever we can’t understand the nature of some unwanted situation we fall, by default, into the hands of a nature whose answer to this ache is always the same: get negative and […]

Whenever you feel as though you are trapped in life and begin to resist the path before you, remember that these walls you see closing in on you are nothing more — in reality — than the hardened structure of […]

Question: I have been practicing catching and dropping negative states. A few times I’ve awakened in the night, sick to my stomach and entertaining worrisome thoughts. I have awakened a few times feeling unbridled terror. I practiced the “Stop, Drop, […]

As life pours itself out in the stream of passing time, and we run into challenges seemingly greater than our ability to answer—each of these encounters “asks” this question of us: 
“Are you willing to change (who you have been) […]

Question: You’ve spoken of how we use imagination to project negative outcomes to life situations. But sometimes things happen and there actually is a bad outcome to deal with. Maybe our loved one is very ill, or a child has […]

In this world that you and I live in, response is request. We can slightly enlarge this idea by restating it this way: The way you respond to life is also a request you make to it. See how the […]

Dare to see and experience yourself as you are without giving names to what presents itself before your watchful inner eyes. Allow the meaning of whatever states you see coming up in you to reveal their actual make-up to you, […]