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A 9 year old boy asks why anger and fear always deny that they are controlling us. Guy explains that pain only offers us limited solutions – telling us who we are and what we can do, and taking from […]

I’ll tell you when a relationship between two people really begins to change… it’s when one of those two people realizes that no one wins a fight. There is no winning side to any fight when the cost of that […]

Love has a way of cutting through the dross of our human nature. But when – misunderstanding the action of love – we try to coerce someone into being what we want, those efforts that we think are going to […]

Whenever we’re filled with blame, unable to see anything but one side, “our side,” of the story… …Any time all we can hear is some part of ourselves “telling” us why our partner must pay for our pain… …In these, […]

Question: I am having problems with my expectations of people and feeling disappointed when they do not act in the way I think they should towards me. Currently I’m experiencing a lot of anger with a person I considered such […]

Have you ever been insulted by a passing comment your partner made and then suddenly felt a fire ignite in you? Guy Finley explains how you can start to learn, not burn, in these explosive moments! For more information on […]

Learning what it means to step back from our reactions to life is the same as learning to walk past those parts of us that want us to believe our only choices in that moment are those presented to us […]

Resentment is an unseen gravity, a deceptive force embraced by fools. For though it grants us what seems a safe course and temporary anchorage for our anger, by its guidance we always run aground and are left stranded in a […]

To be angry and hateful is to suffer. It doesn’t help anyone to get angry. Anger hurts whoever is angry. It burns. Anger ruins relationships, causes heartache and regret, and devastates health. And yet, in spite of all of these […]

Who you really are does not depend upon how events unfold. Do your best, and when you have done your best, leave the rest.