{"id":92,"date":"2009-07-20T10:57:00","date_gmt":"2009-07-20T10:57:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/07\/law-of-attraction-in-action-believing-you-can-do-something.html"},"modified":"2009-07-20T10:57:00","modified_gmt":"2009-07-20T10:57:00","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-believing-you-can-do-something","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/07\/law-of-attraction-in-action-believing-you-can-do-something.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Believing You Can Do Something"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>This is post 46 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series<\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

I have a friend who always says he can\u2019t fix anything and hires people to do them. He’s sure he\u2019ll break the wall if he tries to put a hook in it. I\u2019ve tried to show him how to do simple things but he continues to sabotage his efforts by saying over and over that he\u2019ll mess it up. Guess what happens? Yep, he messes it up, by attracting what he expected.<\/p>\n

Believing that you can\u2019t do something reinforces your inability to do it. The Law of Attraction supports you in screwing it up.<\/span><\/p>\n

Most of us grew up with at least some limitations on what we can or can’t do. You may be too big to model, not smart enough to get a top job, not talented enough to do art, no handy enough to fix things. That mentality carries into other areas of your life and can make you feel somewhat out of control. Worst of all, it keeps you from trying to do those things without the mental restrictions.<\/p>\n

If your parent or teacher or friend or the media told you what you can\u2019t do, you carry that belief into adulthood.<\/span><\/p>\n

My advisor in high school told me I was best suited to be someone\u2019s wife and discredited my lofty dreams. She said I couldn\u2019t do business or have a real career. The DoorMat in me believed her and studied Liberal Arts, which prepared me for nothing I wanted to do. But I couldn\u2019t have a business career because my advisor said that.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s YOUR choice to make your thoughts positive or self-defeating.<\/span><\/p>\n

Even if you were never able to do something before, trying it with expectations of success can make it happen! You can get someone to show you how, take a class, or just use determination, and your thoughts, to conquer it. Whatever you think becomes your reality.<\/p>\n

* If you think you can\u2019t, you can\u2019t<\/span>. Saying this takes away the option of learning to do something or overcoming a handicap. Thinking you can\u2019t closes the door to overcoming what kept you from doing it before. It keeps you stuck in victim mode and dependent on others, like my friend who pays people to do what he could do himself.<\/p>\n

* If you think you can, you can<\/span>. That doesn\u2019t mean you will. But it opens the door to possibilities. Thinking you can makes it possible. It says you\u2019re willing to try your best and there\u2019s a decent chance that you\u2019ll succeed. \u201cI can\u201d can get you to \u201cI will.\u201d<\/p>\n

* If you know you will, you will!<\/span> There are 2 key words here\u2014KNOW and WILL. Knowing is stringing than thinking, which still has doubt. WILL is the most definite. You can think you can do something but it doesn\u2019t mean you will. It may happen but also may not. WILL sets your intention to it happening. It has no doubt.<\/p>\n

WILL tells the Law of Attraction to bring it on!<\/span><\/p>\n

The remote control for my VCR hasn\u2019t worked well in a while. I finally went to Radio Shack and bought a universal one. The guy in the store wasn\u2019t sure how to work it. The instructions weren\u2019t clear and he said I\u2019d have to try to figure it out on my own, or return it. I had no choice. The instructions were useless. At first I thought it wouldn\u2019t do what I needed. Programming the remote was confusing. But I needed it to work and decided I\u2019d figure out how to do it.<\/p>\n

I said in a very determined voice, \u201cI WILL make this work for me!\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

A friend called during this and said, \u201cOh, I couldn\u2019t program that remote.\u201d There you go! Say you can\u2019t and you can\u2019t. I knew she couldn\u2019t do it but also knew that I WOULD! I brought all my logic together, played with the buttons, said positive affirmations, \u201cI WILL program this sucker,\u201d and a few minutes later, it was programmed. I was proud of myself and immediately looked up and said thanks. It seemed impossible at first. I\u2019m not tech inclined. But when I decided I WOULD program it, something in me changed.<\/p>\n

I almost felt the invisible force of the Law of Attraction working with me! Knowing I have that support for my thoughts gave me the confidence to make it happen.<\/span><\/p>\n

Catch yourself when you say you can\u2019t do something that you actually would like to do. Ask yourself why not? See if you can change the possibility to \u201cmaybe I can.\u201d Then take a leap and affirm \u201cI WILL.\u201d YOU determine whether you can or can\u2019t do by your thoughts. Why not use them to help you!? ?<\/p>\n

See all the Law of Attraction in Action Series.<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

If you enjoyed my post, please leave a comment and\/or click on the bookmark and write a short review at some of the sites, especially Stumbleupon and Digg. Thanks!

\"AddThis<\/a> var addthis_pub = ‘wryter’;
<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

This is post 46 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series to see how. I have a friend who always says he can\u2019t fix anything and hires people to do…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":83,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-92","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-nice-people-can-finish-first"],"yoast_head":"\nLaw of Attraction in Action: Believing You Can Do Something - Lessons from a Recovering Doormat<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/07\/law-of-attraction-in-action-believing-you-can-do-something.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Law of Attraction in Action: Believing You Can Do Something - Lessons from a Recovering Doormat\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"This is post 46 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series to see how. I have a friend who always says he can\u2019t fix anything and hires people to do…\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/07\/law-of-attraction-in-action-believing-you-can-do-something.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Lessons from a Recovering Doormat\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2009-07-20T10:57:00+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/_W3h59OgJIAA\/SaHpXrJCljI\/AAAAAAAAA2U\/pXTiy5hJCLU\/s200\/*+LOA+logo2.jpg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Daylle Deanna Schwartz\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Law of Attraction in Action: Believing You Can Do Something - Lessons from a Recovering Doormat","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/07\/law-of-attraction-in-action-believing-you-can-do-something.html","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"Law of Attraction in Action: Believing You Can Do Something - Lessons from a Recovering Doormat","og_description":"This is post 46 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series to see how. I have a friend who always says he can\u2019t fix anything and hires people to do…","og_url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/07\/law-of-attraction-in-action-believing-you-can-do-something.html","og_site_name":"Lessons from a Recovering Doormat","article_published_time":"2009-07-20T10:57:00+00:00","og_image":[{"url":"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/_W3h59OgJIAA\/SaHpXrJCljI\/AAAAAAAAA2U\/pXTiy5hJCLU\/s200\/*+LOA+logo2.jpg"}],"author":"Daylle Deanna Schwartz","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/07\/law-of-attraction-in-action-believing-you-can-do-something.html","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/07\/law-of-attraction-in-action-believing-you-can-do-something.html","name":"Law of Attraction in Action: Believing You Can Do Something - Lessons from a Recovering Doormat","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/#website"},"primaryImageOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/07\/law-of-attraction-in-action-believing-you-can-do-something.html#primaryimage"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/07\/law-of-attraction-in-action-believing-you-can-do-something.html#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/_W3h59OgJIAA\/SaHpXrJCljI\/AAAAAAAAA2U\/pXTiy5hJCLU\/s200\/*+LOA+logo2.jpg","datePublished":"2009-07-20T10:57:00+00:00","dateModified":"2009-07-20T10:57:00+00:00","author":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/#\/schema\/person\/4250884f68a588907744baa491f9df35"},"breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/07\/law-of-attraction-in-action-believing-you-can-do-something.html#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/07\/law-of-attraction-in-action-believing-you-can-do-something.html"]}]},{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/07\/law-of-attraction-in-action-believing-you-can-do-something.html#primaryimage","url":"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/_W3h59OgJIAA\/SaHpXrJCljI\/AAAAAAAAA2U\/pXTiy5hJCLU\/s200\/*+LOA+logo2.jpg","contentUrl":"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/_W3h59OgJIAA\/SaHpXrJCljI\/AAAAAAAAA2U\/pXTiy5hJCLU\/s200\/*+LOA+logo2.jpg"},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/07\/law-of-attraction-in-action-believing-you-can-do-something.html#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Law of Attraction in Action: Believing You Can Do Something"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/#website","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/","name":"Lessons from a Recovering Doormat","description":"Beliefnet Voices - Daylle Deanna Schwartz","potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/#\/schema\/person\/4250884f68a588907744baa491f9df35","name":"Daylle Deanna Schwartz","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-content\/wphb-cache\/gravatar\/83b\/83ba6e1423377712fe408a5fab971bfax96.jpg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-content\/wphb-cache\/gravatar\/83b\/83ba6e1423377712fe408a5fab971bfax96.jpg","caption":"Daylle Deanna Schwartz"},"description":"Daylle Deanna Schwartz is a speaker, self-empowerment counselor, best-selling author of 15 books, including Nice Girls Can Finish First (McGraw-Hill), All Men Are Jerks Until Proven Otherwise and founder of The Self-Love Movement\u2122 where she's giving away her 13th book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways, a She's appeared on hundreds of TV and radio shows, including Oprah, Howard Stern, and Good Morning America and has been quoted in dozens of publications, including the New York Times, Chicago Sun-Times, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Marie Claire, and Men\u00b9s Health. After being a consummate People Pleaser who felt unworthy of getting her own needs met for many years, Daylle found a path of self-love that enabled her to build her self-esteem and reinvent herself into a dual career. She learned to get taken seriously without being overtly assertive when she became one of the first women to start an independent record label (on a dare!) and learned to play ball nicely and successfully in an industry dominated by men. To help independent musicians empower themselves, Daylle writes music business books for Billboard\/Random House, including the very popular Start & Run Your Own Record Labe and I Don't Need a Record Deal! Daylle's books have been translated into over 10 languages and are popular around the world. She speaks for colleges, organizations and corporations. Through her company, Project Self-Empowerment, Daylle creates programs and materials to help people empower themselves. One goal is to raise the money to self-publish her book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways and give it away for free in colleges and through organizations, to give thanks for all her blessings. Daylle uses her writing and speaking to help others find the kind of contentment and empowerment that she has.","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/author\/dschwartz"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/92","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/83"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=92"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/92\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=92"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=92"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=92"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}