{"id":72,"date":"2009-09-26T13:38:00","date_gmt":"2009-09-26T13:38:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/09\/no-more-long-term-disappointment.html"},"modified":"2009-09-26T13:38:00","modified_gmt":"2009-09-26T13:38:00","slug":"no-more-long-term-disappointment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/09\/no-more-long-term-disappointment.html","title":{"rendered":"No More Long Term Disappointment!"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>My last post for my Law of Attraction in Action<\/a> series discussed disappointment<\/a> and what we can attract when we feel it. I heard from a lot of people and wanted to add a few points to the topic.<\/p>\n

Disappointment is a negative emotion that doesn\u2019t feel good.<\/span><\/p>\n

Negative emotions can hurt your health while positive ones enhance it. It\u2019s your CHOICE to feel long term negative ones. It\u2019s normal to feel disappointment when things don\u2019t go your way. I don\u2019t advocate just pushing it away when something you were hoping for or expecting doesn\u2019t come through. That\u2019s not healthy either! Work though it and then move on:<\/p>\n

\u2022 Acknowledge your disappointment<\/span>. Think about what happened, how you feel and why it feels so bad. Write down what it means to you if necessary to work through your feelings. It’s okay to feel disappointed and have that lead to sadness. Fighting it keeps it alive. But it’s also important to keep it in perspective!<\/p>\n

\u2022 Talk it over with a friend<\/span>. Someone sympathetic and positive can help you work through your feelings. Express how you feel and why. Sharing your feelings with someone who cares about you helps you let your sadness go.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Don\u2019t share your feelings with someone negative or who likes to dwell on them!<\/span> They\u2019ll just rehash your pain instead of encouraging you to look ahead to better things. Negative types can make you feel worse. Be selective about who you turn to.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Allow your sadness to surface and grieve<\/span>. Have a cry. It\u2019s okay to feel down for a day or two as what happened sinks in. It\u2019s when it becomes entrenched in your mood that it will be a problem. Soothe yourself with thoughts of other things in your life that are good.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Ask yourself if you prefer to feel positive or negative<\/span>. So simple! It\u2019s your choice to feel bad or move on and find things to feel good about. When I feel like that, I clean, to take back control. I always feel better! Recite your blessings. Find what triggers you to snap out of a bad mood and use it.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Accept that things happen for a reason and move on<\/span>. When your faith is real, you can trust it will all work out for your highest good. Trying this and seeing it works is the best medicine for overcoming disappointment. Finding the reasons for what happened however far down the road is super empowering!<\/p>\n

After my last post I heard from Brenda, who told me a story that I asked if I could share. She went to parochial grade school. When they felt disappointed, one of the nuns told the students not to be and not to think God wasn’t answering their prayers. Brenda still remembers the nun saying:<\/p>\n

\u201cGod did answer your prayer. He said NO because he knew it wasn’t for our well being at that time…\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

As the Rolling Stones said, “You can’t always get what you want.” And that’s okay. Not getting what you want helps you appreciate when you do. <\/span>Acceptance is a key to moving past disappointment<\/span>. Even for big things, God has a plan, even if it\u2019s not the one you so desperately wanted. When you can accept that, it\u2019s easier to let go of disappointment and leave more room for being happy!<\/p>\n

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