{"id":716,"date":"2011-05-04T12:01:34","date_gmt":"2011-05-04T16:01:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=716"},"modified":"2011-04-08T12:50:01","modified_gmt":"2011-04-08T16:50:01","slug":"%e2%80%9ci-love-me%e2%80%9d-tip-splurge-calories-on-a-goodie%e2%80%94guilt-free","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/05\/%e2%80%9ci-love-me%e2%80%9d-tip-splurge-calories-on-a-goodie%e2%80%94guilt-free.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cI Love Me!\u201d Tip: Splurge Calories on a Goodie\u2014Guilt-Free"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/files\/2011\/04\/HowDoILoveMeCover1.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-717\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/91\/2011\/04\/HowDoILoveMeCover1-222x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"222\" height=\"300\" \/><\/a>Guilt can ruin the pleasure of eating something yummy. Many of us are in a perpetual cycle of watching our weight. I try to be careful not to gain much. But the pursuit of a slimmer body can cloud our ability to allow us to enjoy what we eat. And self-love is about making yourself happy!<\/p>\n<p>One way I like to enjoy spring is to have an ice cream cone from Baskin Robbins. Pralines &amp; Cream is my favorite flavor. I get one when I\u2019m taking a walk and love to stroll along enjoying my treat. I also buy one\u00a0 and go sit in the park, slowly savoring it. For me, ice cream goes with a gorgeous spring day. So when I get a craving for ice cream because the sun is shining and the temperature is pleasant, I indulge myself, and enjoy every bite, without the slightest hint of guilt, because I love to give me pleasure!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Find your pleasure and indulge in it occasionally<\/strong>, knowing that one time won\u2019t blow your diet.<\/p>\n<p>Whether it\u2019s ice cream or a smoothie or a shake or a small bag of chips, or decadent candy or whatever else rocks your taste buds, allow yourself to have it occasionally. When I travel, I love to buy fresh fudge if I encounter a fudge shop, which seems to be prevalent in small towns. I don\u2019t buy a lot\u2014just one piece that I can enjoy by eating it slowly and savoring those rich calories.<\/p>\n<p>Say \u201cI love me\u201d by treating yourself to something you enjoy eating. And enjoy it without guilt. Self-love means bringing smiles to your face. So find your treat and indulge, without going overboard or doing it too often. Special treats reinforce being a special person and nourishes you, and your self-love!<\/p>\n<p>*****************<\/p>\n<p>Take the <a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/the-pledge\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>self-love challenge<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/the-book\" target=\"_blank\">How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at <a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/\">http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a>. And you can post your loving acts <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/post-self-love-actions\" target=\"_blank\">HERE<\/a><\/strong> to reinforce your intention to love yourself. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts <strong><a href=\"..\/2011\/02\/31-days-of-self-love-posts.html\" target=\"_blank\">HERE<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Guilt can ruin the pleasure of eating something yummy. 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