{"id":561,"date":"2011-04-06T12:01:00","date_gmt":"2011-04-06T12:01:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/04\/i-love-me-tip-affirm-that-you-deserve-good.html"},"modified":"2011-04-06T12:01:00","modified_gmt":"2011-04-06T12:01:00","slug":"i-love-me-tip-affirm-that-you-deserve-good","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/04\/i-love-me-tip-affirm-that-you-deserve-good.html","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;I love me&#8221; Tip: Affirm That You Deserve Good"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span class=\"mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image\"><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/assets_c\/2011\/01\/HowDoILoveMeCover-thumb-199x268-19744-thumb-199x268-19745-thumb-199x268-20233-thumb-199x268-20601-thumb-199x268-20629-thumb-199x268-20643-thumb-199x268-20662.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for HowDoILoveMeCover.jpg\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/91\/import\/assets_c\/2011\/01\/HowDoILoveMeCover-thumb-199x268-19744-thumb-199x268-19745-thumb-199x268-20233-thumb-199x268-20601-thumb-199x268-20629-thumb-199x268-20643-thumb-199x268-20662-thumb-199x268-20663.jpg\" class=\"mt-image-left\" style=\"float: left;margin: 0pt 20px 20px 0pt\" height=\"268\" width=\"199\" \/><\/a><\/span>When I was a DoorMat, I had no self-love and never even considered that I deserved anything better than what I had. People told me I did. So did self-help books. But I knew until I told that to me it would never sink in. As I began to feel a little self-love, I wanted to do more for me. I knew that I had to do something to reinforce that I deserved to feel good. Hmmmm&#8230;. Why not tell myself that?!<\/p>\n<p>So I began to say, over and over <b>&#8220;I deserve nice things and loving behavior that feels good!&#8221;<\/b><\/p>\n<p>At first the words were empty. But I continued saying this affirmation whenever I could. It took on more power when I occasionally said it in the mirror. One day after affirming this, I did something that made me feel good, and felt good! After that the words took on even more power. The more I said it, the more conscious I was about looking for ways to feel good and avoiding situations and people that triggered negative emotions in me. This became a powerful tool for building my self-love.<\/p>\n<p>Say over and over <b>&#8220;I deserve to have nice things and loving behavior that feels good!&#8221;<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Feel the words. Look in the mirror. <b>Allow the words to motivate you to look for more ways to feel good<\/b>. It might take a while but if you continue to affirm those words, eventually you&#8217;ll begin to adopt that thought as your reality. Every time you say them, you&#8217;re also saying, &#8221; I love me!&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Take the <a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/the-pledge\"><b>self-love challenge<\/b><\/a> and get my book, <b><a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/the-book\">How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/b> for free at <a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/\">http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a>. And you can post your loving acts <b><a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/post-self-love-actions\">HERE<\/a><\/b> to reinforce your intention to love yourself. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts <b><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/02\/31-days-of-self-love-posts.html\">HERE<\/a><\/b>. <\/p>\n<p>Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When I was a DoorMat, I had no self-love and never even considered that I deserved anything better than what I had. People told me I did. So did self-help books. But I knew until I told that to me it would never sink in. As I began to feel a little self-love, I wanted&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":83,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[15],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-561","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-self-love-acceptance"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v23.9 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>&quot;I love me&quot; Tip: Affirm That You Deserve Good - Lessons from a Recovering Doormat<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/04\/i-love-me-tip-affirm-that-you-deserve-good.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"&quot;I love me&quot; Tip: Affirm That You Deserve Good - Lessons from a Recovering Doormat\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"When I was a DoorMat, I had no self-love and never even considered that I deserved anything better than what I had. People told me I did. So did self-help books. But I knew until I told that to me it would never sink in. As I began to feel a little self-love, I wanted&hellip;\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/04\/i-love-me-tip-affirm-that-you-deserve-good.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Lessons from a Recovering Doormat\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2011-04-06T12:01:00+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/files\/import\/assets_c\/2011\/01\/HowDoILoveMeCover-thumb-199x268-19744-thumb-199x268-19745-thumb-199x268-20233-thumb-199x268-20601-thumb-199x268-20629-thumb-199x268-20643-thumb-199x268-20662-thumb-199x268-20663.jpg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Daylle Deanna Schwartz\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"\"I love me\" Tip: Affirm That You Deserve Good - Lessons from a Recovering Doormat","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/04\/i-love-me-tip-affirm-that-you-deserve-good.html","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"\"I love me\" Tip: Affirm That You Deserve Good - Lessons from a Recovering Doormat","og_description":"When I was a DoorMat, I had no self-love and never even considered that I deserved anything better than what I had. People told me I did. So did self-help books. But I knew until I told that to me it would never sink in. As I began to feel a little self-love, I wanted&hellip;","og_url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/04\/i-love-me-tip-affirm-that-you-deserve-good.html","og_site_name":"Lessons from a Recovering Doormat","article_published_time":"2011-04-06T12:01:00+00:00","og_image":[{"url":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/files\/import\/assets_c\/2011\/01\/HowDoILoveMeCover-thumb-199x268-19744-thumb-199x268-19745-thumb-199x268-20233-thumb-199x268-20601-thumb-199x268-20629-thumb-199x268-20643-thumb-199x268-20662-thumb-199x268-20663.jpg"}],"author":"Daylle Deanna Schwartz","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/04\/i-love-me-tip-affirm-that-you-deserve-good.html","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/04\/i-love-me-tip-affirm-that-you-deserve-good.html","name":"\"I love me\" Tip: Affirm That You Deserve Good - Lessons from a Recovering Doormat","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/#website"},"primaryImageOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/04\/i-love-me-tip-affirm-that-you-deserve-good.html#primaryimage"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/04\/i-love-me-tip-affirm-that-you-deserve-good.html#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/files\/import\/assets_c\/2011\/01\/HowDoILoveMeCover-thumb-199x268-19744-thumb-199x268-19745-thumb-199x268-20233-thumb-199x268-20601-thumb-199x268-20629-thumb-199x268-20643-thumb-199x268-20662-thumb-199x268-20663.jpg","datePublished":"2011-04-06T12:01:00+00:00","dateModified":"2011-04-06T12:01:00+00:00","author":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/#\/schema\/person\/4250884f68a588907744baa491f9df35"},"breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/04\/i-love-me-tip-affirm-that-you-deserve-good.html#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/04\/i-love-me-tip-affirm-that-you-deserve-good.html"]}]},{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/04\/i-love-me-tip-affirm-that-you-deserve-good.html#primaryimage","url":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/files\/import\/assets_c\/2011\/01\/HowDoILoveMeCover-thumb-199x268-19744-thumb-199x268-19745-thumb-199x268-20233-thumb-199x268-20601-thumb-199x268-20629-thumb-199x268-20643-thumb-199x268-20662-thumb-199x268-20663.jpg","contentUrl":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/files\/import\/assets_c\/2011\/01\/HowDoILoveMeCover-thumb-199x268-19744-thumb-199x268-19745-thumb-199x268-20233-thumb-199x268-20601-thumb-199x268-20629-thumb-199x268-20643-thumb-199x268-20662-thumb-199x268-20663.jpg"},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/04\/i-love-me-tip-affirm-that-you-deserve-good.html#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"&#8220;I love me&#8221; Tip: Affirm That You Deserve Good"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/#website","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/","name":"Lessons from a Recovering Doormat","description":"Beliefnet Voices - Daylle Deanna Schwartz","potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/#\/schema\/person\/4250884f68a588907744baa491f9df35","name":"Daylle Deanna Schwartz","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-content\/wphb-cache\/gravatar\/83b\/83ba6e1423377712fe408a5fab971bfax96.jpg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-content\/wphb-cache\/gravatar\/83b\/83ba6e1423377712fe408a5fab971bfax96.jpg","caption":"Daylle Deanna Schwartz"},"description":"Daylle Deanna Schwartz is a speaker, self-empowerment counselor, best-selling author of 15 books, including Nice Girls Can Finish First (McGraw-Hill), All Men Are Jerks Until Proven Otherwise and founder of The Self-Love Movement\u2122 where she's giving away her 13th book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways, a She's appeared on hundreds of TV and radio shows, including Oprah, Howard Stern, and Good Morning America and has been quoted in dozens of publications, including the New York Times, Chicago Sun-Times, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Marie Claire, and Men\u00b9s Health. After being a consummate People Pleaser who felt unworthy of getting her own needs met for many years, Daylle found a path of self-love that enabled her to build her self-esteem and reinvent herself into a dual career. She learned to get taken seriously without being overtly assertive when she became one of the first women to start an independent record label (on a dare!) and learned to play ball nicely and successfully in an industry dominated by men. To help independent musicians empower themselves, Daylle writes music business books for Billboard\/Random House, including the very popular Start &amp; Run Your Own Record Labe and I Don't Need a Record Deal! Daylle's books have been translated into over 10 languages and are popular around the world. She speaks for colleges, organizations and corporations. Through her company, Project Self-Empowerment, Daylle creates programs and materials to help people empower themselves. One goal is to raise the money to self-publish her book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways and give it away for free in colleges and through organizations, to give thanks for all her blessings. Daylle uses her writing and speaking to help others find the kind of contentment and empowerment that she has.","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/author\/dschwartz"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/561","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/83"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=561"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/561\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=561"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=561"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=561"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}