{"id":560,"date":"2011-04-05T12:01:00","date_gmt":"2011-04-05T12:01:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/04\/law-of-attraction-in-action-i-cant-do-it-1.html"},"modified":"2011-04-22T11:52:40","modified_gmt":"2011-04-22T15:52:40","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-i-cant-do-it-1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/04\/law-of-attraction-in-action-i-cant-do-it-1.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Checking Your Mirror"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Thumbnail<\/a><\/span>This is post 133 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series<\/strong><\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

Years ago I read a book that talked about how everyone who came into our lives reflected something in our thoughts and beliefs. The book was about attracting good relationships and why we attract romantic partners who aren\u2019t good for us. I\u2019d just broken up with a boyfriend who drove me crazy in many ways. As I read about how people in my life mirror something about me, I was stymied about my ex since I saw us as polar opposites.<\/p>\n

He was anal about being perfect. I\u2019m a kinda hang loose girl. He was critical and looked for things to pick on me about. I try to have tolerance for others. He had little appreciation for the good in his life and was always trying to improve\u2014get his amazing body into even more amazing shape, needing to make more money, etc. I count my blessings. He wasn\u2019t happy because of his ways. I am. Yet we were together for quite a while. It\u2019s not always easy to recognize what someone is reflecting about you.<\/p>\n

You can learn a lot about yourself by making the effort to see what people and situations are mirroring about you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I did when I tried to figure out what my ex reflected about me. He criticized things I was insecure about but didn\u2019t make an effort to change and minimized. I defended my habits as my sweets quirks, my messiness as the way I like to be, my refusal to exercise as being just not my thing. But deep down in my subconscious, I did want to change. I just felt stuck. The subconscious tells the truth. You might put what you want out to the Universe but the Law of Attraction will pick up on those thoughts beneath the surface that you\u2019re probably not aware of<\/strong>\u2014doubt, fear, believing any romantic partner is better than nothing, feeling safer where you are, etc.<\/p>\n

Looking at your reflection a mirror ou pass or in the mirror of what others reflect about you can provide clues and guidance about what you really need to do or focus your thoughts on.<\/p>\n

Are you affirming being happy yet walking around with a grumpy expression? Peek at yourself in a mirror when you\u2019re out and see what mood you actually exude, despite what you affirm. Force a smile if you want to be happy. You\u2019ll get used to it! If you want healthy people in your life, reflect the kind you want to attract by making yourself as healthy\u2014both physically and mentally\u2014as you can. If you don\u2019t like negativity, avoid saying and doing negative things.<\/p>\n

People often ask why they keep attracting alcoholics or critics or liars or gold diggers or people who use them, etc. Or they wonder why they always end up the one people dump on at work, or things keep breaking at home, or they keep getting ill, etc. They assume they have bad luck or it\u2019s an unfortunate coincidence. It\u2019s not! You attract it all. Deep down it may reflect what you think you deserve or it’s behavior you’re used to so it seems safer, even if it’s negative.<\/p>\n

Every person who comes into your life and every situation that occurs is a reflection of something about you and your thoughts.<\/p>\n

I agree that if you keep assuming you have bad luck, you will attract more. But it\u2019s not about good or bad luck. Your thoughts are being reflected in what you get. If you don\u2019t love yourself it reflects in the people you attract<\/strong>. If you don\u2019t feel confident about your ability to do the job you\u2019re going after, it reflects in your attitude and will keep you from getting the job.<\/p>\n

Look deep into your subconscious to see what\u2019s reflecting in things you don\u2019t like.<\/p>\n

When I dug deep to see what the ex I mentioned above reflected in me, it was a big awakening. I\u2019d been so stuck in old habits that I couldn\u2019t see how much I didn\u2019t like them. I didn\u2019t like having so much clutter! And I do love to exercise but needed to find MY way, not his. The more I looked for what he reflected, the more I learned about me. I\u2019m a better person for it! Fortunately, I also recognized that staying with this guy reflected my need for some of the goodies I got from him and that wasn\u2019t the right reason to be in a relationship. So the first clutter I got rid of was him!<\/p>\n

Pay some attention to what people or situations you don\u2019t like might be reflecting about you.<\/p>\n

People and situations that make you happy reflect your good stuff. Those that trigger negative emotions reflect things you haven\u2019t resolved that are still in your subconscious, even if you\u2019re not aware of it because you\u2019re trying so hard to put on a happy face or avoid facing things. Until you resolve them, they stick with you and sabotage manifesting. When your inner thoughts reflect what you truly want, and you clean out the negative ones, the Law of Attraction will support meeting the kind of people you truly want in your life.<\/p>\n

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n

Take the self-love challenge<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a>. And you can post your loving acts HERE<\/a><\/strong> to reinforce your intention to love yourself. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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